HiI everyone, I'm new here. I'm getting engaged soon inshallah, to what seems like a really nice guy- hopefully he wont turn out to be one of those scary people in the unfortunate rishtas.
Anyways I really want to be a good wife, sincerely. My problem is is that I was brought up as the only girl with three brothers and i got everything i always wanted. So whenever I don't get my way, i get very rude very fast- and then my mom scares the hell out me about how if i act like that i will be sent back home the next day.
Well I noticed that a lot of my friends that were like me are getting divorced, and I don't want to get divorced. I really don't want to be rude. I've really really tried not blowing up or talking back with my parents and brothers but sometimes it just happens on accident- and i always feel really awful. My sister in law is very different and she IS NEVER angry or mad or pissed at anything. I really want to be like her. How do you do that? I'm really scared that I'll blow up over something stupid like not wiping the bathroom counters after wudu and then my hubby will send me straight back.
What everybody said plus also try some "MOOD FOOD".......Congratulations and Good Luck.
The most important step was ....what you have already done!
you have recognized that there is a problem........it is all down hill now Insha Allah!