All of that is not something out of ordinary he is doing. He is supposed to do all that… AND let her walk around in shorts in teh house too… whats the big deal here?
I dont know their living arrangements but its very possible. They could be living in the basement or there could be a separate entrances. Several of my friends did that. Why can’t she wear it in her room and outside the house?
Technically she can wear shorts/sleevless shirts underneath her baggy clothing, still getting the job done.
But on a more serious note,
That’s a ton of sacrifices the guy made…even making it seem his request of not wearing short shorts in front of his parents seem like nothing.
Firstly, let’s make one thing very clear. She’s not right. They’re BOTH stupid for agreeing to marry each one when it’s obvious there will be major conflicts once they start living together. The only reason I don’t see her changing the way she dresses as a “compromise” is because the MIL will be living in the same house. Of course, if they have a separate home after the marriage and only see the guy’s parents when visiting them, then what he’s asking for is reasonable but it doesn’t look like that’s going to happen.
BTW, the guy himself is setting tone for the future by basically letting the girl know that he’ll go along with whatever she says. He’s already showed her that he will choose her over his family since he’s ok with not having family gatherings because she hates his sister; him paying for her expenses/paying for the entire wedding/honeymoon is also questionable. So I will repeat…she’s immature and spoiled and he’s basically going along with it all…which is giving her the impression that her behavior is ok.
It doesn’t matter what you think. It doesn’t matter what I think or anyone else in this forum thinks. If the guy wants her to give up something, then he’s going to have to put his foot down and make it clear that it’s a deal-breaker. The guy is the only one who can either make her “compromise” or end the relationship. No amount of lecture from anyone else is going to accomplish anything.
Being allowed to be as free as she chooses while restricting her clothing choices in front of the people she -lives- with is being asked to completely alter her wardrobe, as another poster mentioned. You see it differently, that’s fine, you’re allowed to, but you’re not allowed to continue pushing your opinion on someone who hasn’t asked for it and doesn’t want it.
Neither one is right or wrong in this situation, they just have a different value set and don’t seem particularly compatible, but that’s really not your business, or that of anyone else. She doesn’t want your advice, hasn’t requested it, so honestly, the best and most productive thing to do is to find something else to be concerned with.
