Re: advise needed on my husbands mentality
Nope, never implied that He was a violent man. If He hit Ayesha or pushed her hard as you put it, then it must have been for a good reason. I am not too religious, and I know better than bringing up religion to justify my opinion. You unfortunately did that, using Prophet (pbuh), as an example for men, and to justify your stance. But you didn’t think this one through. But hey if that is how you want to play, who am I to disappoint you.
He had multiple wives, would you be fine with your husband having multiple wives? Would you be fine with your husband pushing you hard on the chest? Sure He must have helped around the house, and it’s perfectly fine with me, but is it strictly an obligation? And finally this is from Quran (4:43):
“Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand.”