So mili, what do u think of the advice dished up to you here today? Will u act upon it, or r u feeling a bit weak willed, and still want to stick to some one who is familiar???
BTW I second all the advice given here. 3 main points that i will re-iterate:
If he listens to his sisters now, it will get worse after u marry.
It is very important for you to complete your med studies and qualify.
U haven't banked on being a stay at home wife, so u will be disappointed and resent it after all that studying to c the world passing u by while u r stuck at home. (It would be absolutely fine if u WANTED to stay at home tho!)
Eventhough it seems hard, you have to move on.
You want to make something out of your life, you want to realize your dreams. He is being disrespectful by expecting you to just give that up, just because he said so.
That's WRONG! He doesn't have the right to put such restrictions on you, since you're not even married yet.
I'd say just follow your dreams, achieve what you want to make you happy insh'Allah. There are plenty of guys who will respect you for what you are.. and love you for the person you are. And remember that everything happens for a reason, Allah knows what we do not know. Good luck with everything and may Allah be with you.
and yeah i agree with the majority SIL's n the parents in law wont go away aftr u get married they will always b there, so think if they r not making things any better now thn hw can they let u b happy later, there's plenty more fish in the sea n most likely theres some1 out there who will appreiate u for wat ur doing n who u r not force u to do smething u dnt want to
go enjoy ur still young, dnt rush into anything tho
after all this stuff happened i have become so hopeless and very emotionally venerable individual but i have to say posting up ma story online has helped me big time and everyone views in this post are directing me to think straight and get back on track i thank everyone's support.
so far i am thinking that it would be good for me to let go of him and start thinking for myself
and with time inshallah i'll be fine bcz time se insaan chiezien bhoolna shuru ho jata hai and then once u have forgotten them u dont feel so hurt
Here you go. Right decision. Remember it is not your fault that this relationship ended this way. You deserve better. There is someone out there who would understand you and your situation and care for you and love you the way it is supposed to be.
May Allah give you Sabr. Ameen.
that was cute! hehehe