hello
how are you i hope u are all cheering and smiling as always
i was engaged at the age of 16 to a cousin and it has been 7 yrs now and in the very begining fiancee’s brother is law had an arguement with ma dad so after that he kept on troubling us and eventually they had to end this relationship after 2yrs and then his father realised it wasnt a fair decision so we got engaged again all this time i tried my best to keep this relationship going and i have to say this whole thing effected my studies and my own health very much
and then it broke again bcz i said something and fiancee understood something else
and he casually discussed it among his sisters who eventually told their mother.
so his father said if our son doesnt want this to happen then we might as well end it so it ended again.
what was said in that conversatin includes that he said i dont want u to study anymore and i was like ok why and he goes bcz i want someone to be at home when i come from work and i was like ok then why dont u marry some gal who wishes the same bcz my studies means a lot to me getting into medical school is hard enough surviving there is even harder so i am sorry i am not going to discontinue my studies for you. and then he was like ok i didnt know you have become such a big gal and i was u r being unfair u know how hard i work from 8am in the morning till 1pm at night non stop reading and (the bit he didnt hear) if you want some one to come home to then when i finish my studies i’ll work parttime
and now i told him that you didnt listened to the whole thing so now he says ok thats understandable but my sisters are not agreeing with me and i cant do anything
just a note: sisters are like way older then me nothing! in common and they dont like people coming to their home and i am not a phone person so i hardly ever talk to any body on phone except my parents when i am not in london.
so when he said dont call me again i got like the biggest shock of ma life i couldnt pull my self together for good 30 minutes -45 minutes
bcz thats the guy i have spent the entire life talking to and never dated anyone else except and never mentioned anything he said to anyone else
only thing i didnt do is kept his sisters happy well i dont know how to
i am very simple person if somebody talks on my standard like have great discussion on politics medicine fashion i would love to talk to them but they are like my mums age how the hell i am suppose to jam with them i play with their childern and they really like me
and now i am getting purposal more or less every day and i just cant decide what to do should i try to convice him that dude ur sisters are gona be there for life doesnt matter if they angery for bit they will always be there but once i go i wont be able to come back
He is not worth it. If his fmaily is creating so much trouble now, imagine what they will do later on. I realise its hard to let go when you have been with him for so long, but time heals all wounds. I say, run, and dont look back.
1st of all try to post short posts...but anyways np
f u become a dr. then u dont have any need to find anyone ppl will find u..lol
if u break ur engagement this time then plz dnt do it again coz....
cousin marriages usually ruin our past relationships and as well as future.
u r becoming a doctor so ur life will b excellent with a doctor..inshaAllah.
in short...talk to him,ur family n special pray to Allah
1st of all try to post short posts...but anyways np
f u become a dr. then u dont have any need to find anyone ppl will find u..lol
if u break ur engagement this time then plz dnt do it again coz....
cousin marriages usually ruin our past relationships and as well as future.
u r becoming a doctor so ur life will b excellent with a doctor..inshaAllah.
in short...talk to him,ur family n special pray to Allah
So that is good for you that they ended it. They cannot blame you for it later.
Nobody in his family is going to help him getting engaged again with you. If they can break engagement two times for so trivial stuff they will make your life hell after wedding. Stay away from him.
So that is good for you that they ended it. They cannot blame you for it later.
Nobody in his family is going to help him getting engaged again with you. If they can break engagement two times for so trivial stuff they will make your life hell after wedding. Stay away from him.
Life is too short for yo to waste your time on this bloke.... I know it will be hard as this is the only guy that you have thought off and you will prob see him in the future as he is your cuzin, but you have your whole life ahead of you..... Inshallah you will find som1 that loves you and willing to be with you whatever the circumstances....
It's hard but you have to move on. If his sisters have an issue now then chances are that they will always have a problem about one thing or the other.
:k:…so true…not worth the time and effort to even think about it…
If you were planning to work part time, then he too should have thought of it… its better to move on like that others have indicated…all the best…we are here for you..
He and his entire family sound like a bunch of low-life retards!
"Ohh I don't want you to study anymore"!
What?!?!? Seriously, Kaunsa zamana hai yeh??? What kind of moron tells a medical student this kind of sh*t?
Ugh!
Anyway, find yourself a really nice boy. He is a piece of crap and so is his family. Move on. You have a great education and intelligent head on your shoulders and these people are not only holding you back, they're putting you down!
It is a good thing that you emphasized your POV about your career. He already told you with words and actions that he is not expecting that to the point that he is willing to break the relationship. That is a clear indication of the things to come. Don't expect that he will change and allow you to work after marriage. I am not sure what you explained to him to make him see otherwise.
Secondly, I got the feeling that you have not been too keen on studies and this career issue came as a second thought. Just convince yourself that this career is the most important thing in your life at this moment and nothing else.
Anyway! You don't need to marry and have more than one mother-in-laws.
Well eventhough you were engaged to him for a long time you are only 23 now! Its time to move on. If you are in London and studying to be a doc, you will find new people and a new life and you are very young still. Take some time to figure out what you want. Its good you found out before marriage.
