Advise: "In our family we do this"

[CrunkCutiiee]

@eastern11

Urdu Speaking Families traditions:

1. Girls side buys the groom’s outfit for nikah (if there is a separete nikah to be held) wedding and valima, he does his own for mehndi
2. Boys’ side buys girls’s outfits for nikah (if there is a separete nikah to be held) wedding and valima, she does her own for mehndi
3. Clothes from the girls side for the boys’ immediate family and their spouses, some familes have this tradition for the extended family too. The exception are Urdu Speaking familes from Bihar where only the groom’s sisters are given clothes.
4. Urdu speaking familes are big on the bride wearing the “nath” or nose ring on the wedding day.
5. A flower sehra for the girl to tie around her head at the time of rukhsati (thank God this is going down)
6. Less dancing (in general) than Punjabi families esp. for the older crowd

exactly.. this is true for urdu speaking families. Even in my family, (2) through (4) & (6) are followed always..

Also, i would like to add to spiral’s post of breakfast supply next morning. I think this also happens in most urdu speaking families. In our family, bride comes along with the people bringing in the breakfast, and spends this whole day (in case the reception is’nt going to take place that very night) with her parents and family.. In the evening or so, husband and in-laws come over to take the bride home.. When she gets ready to go back, she is to wear a dress from her ‘bari’ (that is, the guy’s side dress), but this is not always the case..