Advice to all men before marriage

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I don’t need your sympathy and I lead quite a happy and trouble free life. I hope you have better luck in marriage department then some of the others.

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I know girls who were abused and didnt take their ex's anything..desi of course

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^ bad lawyer?

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Theres a lesson here people. That being KNOW who you marry. Meeting for the first time on the wedding night? Ahh, too much of a chance for me. If you marry an unknown, then you can expect the unknown.

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No, they just wanted to end all relationships with the guy. The one I talked to said she could live on her own without his help or money. They could've easily, tho

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No this is not crap. This is very true.
This is why, men don't wanna marry.
This is why girlfriend boyfriend culture has been propagated
This is why people live out of wedlock
This is why the society of these western cultures is destroyed.

This is because the natural balance of the relationing between a man and woman has been destroyed by all the man made laws.

No joking, this is all true, not crap......

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I disagree.
Doesn't matter what you do, you cannot predict anything about anyone. People who knew each other before marriage, ended up in a disaster in the first year. You can never even know a person till you live with that person in the same room under the same roof.

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Only yesterday I heard of a case in our close family friends, whose daughter just got divorced. This was a couple where both husband and wife were born and raised in Pakistan, and then moved to US after marriage. Two kids. The most incredible part of it is that now the wife is required to pay alimony to her former husband, just because she is a doctor and presumably makes a lot more than her husband makes in his engineering job. Kids are with the mother. Both husband and wife lived in New York and still plan to live there.

I think husband's lawyer argued the case that since wife passed her MLE's after marriage, so the husband made lots of sacrifices for his wife's education and hence deserves a share of the spoils as well.

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Faisal, your another attempt at personal attack is noted; rest assured I will not take your bait.

Don't delude yourself into thinking that you are saying anything new or intersesting.

Come back when you have something intelligent to say.

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I agree with both mamaof3 and Lahore 981. There are absolutely no guarantees in marriage-life. There is a flip side to every situation: couple who met for the first time during their wedding nights led fuirtful life while couples in the west who knew each other for years prior to marriage divorced within the first year. However, I don't believe that this predicament entailed out-of-wedlock or girlfriend-boyfriend culture. That is something which is a discussion within itself.

But unfair divorce laws and regulations which favor a female more then males does discourage many men from tying the knot in fear that the wife-to-b*t*h will take half of everything he worked so hard to earn and establish even before the marriage.

I am not really afraid but only apprehensive. Life is too short to not take a chance at marraige and children. May be it will work out for me. Allah knows.

Narrow ties or the wide ones?
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wthh
and email is causing ppl to turn against marraige

okayyy.

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^^ ? What? People who are anti-marraige are of a very tiny minority. Purpose of the original post was not to discourage but only to inform.

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A man gets justice by using the same argument that women use.

Thanks for sharing this Faisial, good job! :k:

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fallenpieta, if you are that afraid of marrying a woman who will wipe you clean, why not find a woman who is willing to sign a prenup? That way you can protect your assets.

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Prenups do not carry any weight in some countries.

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Why not marry other guys then? :)

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Interestingly if women start compiling a list of all the bad things that can happen to a woman if she ends up marrying an @sshole (wife-beater, drunkard, unfaithful, miser etc), the list is not gonna be twice as big, but could be many times larger.

Marriage is definitely a big gamble. There are no two ways about it. It is. There are ways to minimize risks, but there is no way anyone can reliably predict another person for a life time. Despite that, countless people take this gamble every day. Our parents did the same, and thats why we are here, in the first place. Some people do think that this gamble is not worth the risks. I am sure there are plenty of people who decide not to get married at all.

A gora colleague of mine, once made the statement that the only reason to get married is to have children. I suspect he is one of those who still believe in ensuring kids are born legitimate. Evidence suggests more and more people couldn't care less for that, either. This is just the way this culture is evolving. There is no doubt that in many instances alimony laws put people off marriage. For practicing muslims though, pre-marital cohabitation is not an option, so they bite the bullet anyway. Most do it with pleasure, though.

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Fallen - inform???

its not even facts

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:eek: this post is so not Faisal, eek eek. What happened to the pristine guy logo, pata karo who this imposter is:hoonh:

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if you go into it with an open mind and heart, im sure you’ll be fine :slight_smile: InshAllah