Re: Advice to all men before marriage
Granted, it is a man's responsibility to earn and provide and parents have every right to make sure he works. But are you marrying your daughter off to him or his money? hmmmm......
I remember saying/feeling that when I was around 16 or so. I think it's a rather naive and impractical way to go about it, "i don't care if he makes money or not." Yes, love is impotant, but love ain't gonna put food on the table.
I believe things like respect, love, religiousness etc can be seen rather than just asked, if that makes sense. Parents are able to see things that we cannot see because we're blinded by emotion or lust n whatnot. Like I said before, my dad spent over an hour asking him about his job, money, qualifications etc, but that doesn't mean that my father will marry me off to just any guy who makes a good living. He didnt' ask him "will you love/respect my daughter?" mainly because he knows that if I didn't know that already (that he would love/respect me) then I'd've dumped him long time ago and parents wudn't even be talking to him.
I do think that parents who look ONLY at his education and how much he makes and wat kind of car he drives (which I think is the stupidest thing I've ever heard), an d make a decision based solely on THAT criteria,ignoring that he might not be the nicest or most respectful person etc, doesn't mean they will automatically say yes if they feel that something is definitely not right about him.