Advice on how to deal with my father

[TS]

Re: Advice on how to deal with my father

@TS

I have some food for thought for the OP:

Figure out how much your parents have spent on you since your birth. Find that amount of money however you can. Pay them back and then feel free to disown / divorce them and be on your merry way.

Until you can do that, hold your peace and make the best of the situation, without the intention of stabbing them in the back, like some folks are suggesting.

If your situation is bad, don’t make it worse by acting bratty and rude with your parents and inciting their anger.

While what your father did to you was excessive to an extreme when you physically insulted your mother, think about how much you hurt your parents with your bad, disrespectful behaviour, and thanklessness.

If you can’t bring yourself to be good to them then just do what I said above.
Fair is fair. Life is about give and take, not just take and take.
It is not just about me, me, me all the time.
At least pay them back what you owe them in monetary terms and then leave for good.

@coffeegirl

I already said to my mum I will paying back to be a daughter of this house.
I never act bratty or rude.
First and foremost I am a muslim and even if I am not happy with the way my father treats us - I would never be rude back to him or abusive.

I believe an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.

My mothers tarbeeyat has always been , if someone else is doing bad does not mean you should as well – no matter how hard the world gets , how advanced - always follow islamic teachings, you will never go wrong.

@Sara516

I’m not sure if this is the right post–coffeegirl seems to be respectful of her mother, even with negative feelings against her father and hasn’t physically assaulted her mother. Are you thinking of the “forced to move back to Pak” thread?

Oops. This is embarrassing. :sid:

Thanks, Sara. Yes this was meant for “Parents forced me to move back to Pak”.

Sorry CofeeGirl. My apologies.