Re: Advice on how to deal with my father
Just thought I would clear a few miss understandings.
I don’t have a lot of freedom but I am also my father’s golden child, I am his faviourte and as I am the eldest, he refers to me as his son when he really feels like trying to get me on his side. Now yes it is true, I fall for the emotional blackmail.
So leaving for me is a lot more than escaping the abuse and moving on, because the abuse is more towards my mum and sisters as well as me, but I sometimes am not that involved only because I shut up.
The advice is brilliant so thank you everyone for that. As of yet I am still thinking about what to do and what to think about.
Someone said in a post above me, you have to realise which relationships are worth sacrificing. Now I know that me and mum have been together through a lot and for me to just leave her like that in the middle is something I would hate to do. My mum is pretty much my best friend and I wouldn’t want to leave her hence having to really think about it.
Yes I did talk to him when my mum said no - but only because my mum’s no was a sort of ( its up to you, do what you feel is best) and I did. And alhumduliah, its all going well and my mum has no objections to it. Neither would my dad have objections to the rishta, in fact this is where he wants me to get married anyway. So actually I talk to him with the blessings of my mum and for me that means a lot more to me than anything else. Another thing, there is no thing as my parents - its either my mum or dad. 
In terms of restriction - my dad doesn’t know a lot about computers and the internet and I do all his admin work for him therefore have access to the internet 24/7.
That’s all the freedom I pretty much got
Keep the advice coming, it is helping me