Advice on how to deal with my father

[Mirch]

Re: Advice on how to deal with my father

@Sahdia77

Being a parent doesn’t mean you can abusive your children as much as you want. Children have rights too. The prophet (saww) even allowed a Muslima to say no to a marriage choice of her parents.

If parents abuse a child so much that that child doesn’t even want to live anymore or the life of that child is in danger in other ways, the child does have the right to leave. Allah is not cruel . . .

I am saying this as a parent myself.

I agree 100% .
Raising kids is not a business like a nursing home where kids have to pay back the expenses incurred by parents, it is a responsibility.
If someone was just enjoying sleeping with his wife and was not hoping to have kids as a consequens of that enjoyment then they might resent their kids and wife, otherwise most of us parents chose to have kids out of love and affection therefore all they need and deserve is love , care, nurturing , guidance and yes discipline also.
But disciplining does not mean make their lives hell to the point that they prefer death over their lives.