Good job Pyari. I'm glad that you're keeping your ears and eyes open and noticing things about the mom and her attitude/personality. These are things you need to take into consideration. That's very smart. Because some people get too blinded by love that they can't see clearly. You mother being older and more experienced will get a stronger feel for what this woman will be like. So listen to your mom. You are the number one priority for your mom. And that kind of love, you won't recieve from a mother-in-law or anyone else. Guys can come and go......but in desi culture, when you marry a guy, you marry not just the guy, but his whole family. And if the guy is already showing signs that he can't stand up to mommy.....then it can become problematic later one.....becaue LOVE can only go so far and marriage is more than that. You've never mentioned the guy's dad. Did he pass away or have his parents separated?
it took me a long time to understand that, im glad i finally did =). my mom, friends, and all u Guppies have told me the same thing SO i have to take tht in consideration!
No Alhamdulillah his dad is still alive. His dad and him live in America while his mom sister and brothers live in Pakistan. His job is in America. They also are not seperated. His dad has left all these type of decisions on his wife