So what is it that you’re discussing here? The factors of ‘credibility’ of prospects for marriage, the secret of successful marriage, or the topic at hand, i.e; a 22 year old girl who claims to be ‘mature enough to get engaged for marriage’, “horribly confused & frustrated” with her mother / parents not dedicatedly & actively seeking a partner she would be spending her life with because she is unable to find someone for herself on her own?