My post also suggested the combined approach if possible, however, if someone wants to look for a mate through family members, that is not so bad or wrong either. This does not mean spoon feeding either.
Very very mature and old singles make drastic mistakes when they get married on their own.
Like I said, no approach is the best.
No matter how forward a woman is, she still needs someone else (mostly family member, or a friend) to plant the idea in man’s head to propose or waits till the man proposes her out of his own will.
Even in open societies you will not see or hear woman asking man to marry…on ususal basis.
Rare exceptipons do happen and have occured for centuries.