Re: Advice needed for a friend! Fiance/Mobile Phone
^... He also used to ask my friend "have you been paid yet?" Then would proceed to ask her to send more money. Although tbh this isn't the first time I've heard of this happening. A cousin of mine met a guy online in Pakistan who would ask her to send money...she did...multiple times. And guess what? Their wedding is next month >< makes me want to give her a good whack for not being smarter but oh well.
Re: Advice needed for a friend! Fiance/Mobile Phone
i think any guy who demands/asks for this kind of stuff, is a total wussy and na-mard. the hell with being politically correct, some things are just not.cool.
Re: Advice needed for a friend! Fiance/Mobile Phone
I am all praises and in awe of the girls dad who told the nand off!! That's how dads should protect and stand up for their daughters rather than being doormats for the guys families.
Re: Advice needed for a friend! Fiance/Mobile Phone
I am seriously shocked by people saying stuff like "oh its just a mobile" or "the item belongs to the fiance now and its none of her concern anymore". Its not about an s3 or the amount of dollars spent, its about the GIFT that the girl sent to her FIANCE and not his sister. I wonder what kind of childish, immature and interferring sil is she. How can she "zidd" over her brothers phone that is a gift from his fiance. Hats off to mil for making it sound so normal and allowing the daughter to be so weird.
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I don't know what's more disturbing. That OP's plight qualifies as a problem, or the fact that it has received so many responses?
Exactly
Re: Advice needed for a friend! Fiance/Mobile Phone
i think any guy who demands/asks for this kind of stuff, is a total wussy and na-mard. the hell with being politically correct, some things are just not.cool.
I agree.
Re: Advice needed for a friend! Fiance/Mobile Phone
wow. glad she got out of it.
Re: Advice needed for a friend! Fiance/Mobile Phone
will she have to sil after marriage? yes,swallow it and get her fiance to buy a cheaper phone,if no,call her fiance and make a one time tantrum about not being happy,all the indian drama stuff really,make him create a back bone,because its unfair for her to take your gift for herself and so very intruding.dont always fight (bad for relationships) but stay on the side that she's hurt this is happening,she sent it with her feelings,she would not be able to talk unless he got the phone back,and she's upset' say stuff like that,motivate him to take the phone back but dont blame him.
Re: Advice needed for a friend! Fiance/Mobile Phone
i meant will she have to live with sil after marriage
Re: Advice needed for a friend! Fiance/Mobile Phone
I have just returned to GS and noticed this thread and some people asking about whether my friend got the phone back or not, so here is an update:
Following all of this, I advised my friend to let him deal with it although she had a right to be upset. So she did. The guy got the phone back but then started asking my friend to send him money...I KID YOU NOT. She (to save her engagement) sent him about $2,000.00 + in the hopes he would start treating her better (my friend is very naive). Anyway following this, one night my friend was at her chachu's place and her viber was playing up. She gets home later that night and when she looks at her phone she sees some very rude viber messages from the nand saying the following:
"maine tumhe phone kia tha tumhe pathaa nahi hai k jab koi call karaye tu phone attend karthaye hain" and "tekh hai main aab nahi tumhe phone karoon ghi'
My friend proceeded to explain that she had been at her chachu's and had not realized the nand had been calling...nand again says "tekh hai but main nahi aab tumhe phone karoon ghi" (big loss) to which my friend finally grew a back bone and said "jaisaye tumhari marzi"
OKAY...then my friend was understandably upset (it was midnight local time) and she told her mother what had happened. Her mum was understandably annoyed....the nand was always also texting when my friend was with family etc and saying "why are u never home"....her mum woke up my friend's father and uncle proceeded to ring the nand and tell her 1) my friend lives under his roof so they dictate what she does and does not do, 2) that there is no shortage of rishtas for my friend and IF they continue to treat her this way and follow her every movement they will break the rishta and 3) to stop annoying my friend. Nand goes into shock (WHO ON EARTH SPEAKS TO THE GUY'S FAMILY THAT WAY? in this case, good on uncle for treating them like that). Ok phone convo ends.
The next day the guy rings my friend AND TELLS HER TO APOLOGISE TO THE NAND and friend is confused and says "why" and he says 'SAY SORRY BECAUSE U DIDNT HEAR UR PHONE AND MISSED HER CALLS"....my friend told him that was ridiculous and she wouldn't be doing it. He then didn't speak to her for 1 week and one night finally calls her and says "i know this rishta could never break" (yeah like he was brad pitt or something) and "tum mere dil saye nikhal gaye hou aab". So my friend, deciding enough is enough, tells her parents she is through and that she is not marrying him. Her dad immediately rings the guy's dad and says its over. They beg and plead (FOR THE VISA CLEARLY NOT FOR MY FRIEND) but a firm no remains. The guy then starts stalking my friend's phone so she changes her number. He then starts stalking her mum's phone. Fast forward 7 months and they continue their stalking. He also (before he knew she would end it) told her that her family didnt give enough at the engagement (when in actual fact they gave TOO MUCH)...so really they were just greedy.
I cannot believe some people! But I am glad she got out of it.
alhamdulillah...