Re: Advice needed ASAP
See if you can find her a counsellor/therapist.
I am glad you believe that it happened and you’re there with her for support. That is often first and biggest fear people have that others just won’t believe them.
Support her in letting her know that her feelings; whatever they may be - make sense given the situation
It’s an old incident at this point and she likely has a lot of resentment more than other emotions. Let her express it. Try not to rationalize her feelings by saying things like “you shouldn’t feel this way because he’s a good husband or xyz”
Let her figure out how she wants to handle her relationship with him, by really truly understanding her feelings, not judging them at all, and letting her know that you understand. Be honest. If you don’t understand something, let her know, without questioning her feelings. If you don’t “get” it, maybe she needs to think about her feelings some more to make better sense.
Don’t tell her what to do… let her come up with her decisions. Let her evaluate all possible routes, just make sure she’s using good judgment when thinking about her decision - i.e. not only being concerned about the child or her future. Those are real considerations on their own, not just objections to the idea of leaving.
And see if she’s willing to get professional help to help deal with this.