Advice i am confused - relationship

[Paheli00]

Re: Advice i am confused - relationship

@Oneday27

Yes i am white not english but i am from muslim background but i dont think that will matter to them anyways( yes you are right his ex was muslim as well) i appreciate the reply . Now i know what to do , probably my expectation were a bit higher . **Probably is my fault of not talking to him from the begining **because when we start hanging out i didnt expect to get attached to him and neither wanted to put a pressure , its been 6 months now and i dont want to have hopes for something that has no future now I will just back off .

1. You are correct that it doesn’t matter (Re: Your ethnicity). The point here is that you are not Pakistani.

2. I know this is harsh but yes, this is your fault for not bring up the issue of whether this is a relationship which will lead to marriage OR a “friends with benefit” situation. You chose to get physically involved with a guy and continued to do everything a girlfriend would do without any commitment from him. He never misled you or lied to you. He never even referred to you as his GF let alone promising marriage! Your behavior led him to believe that you were fine with being his friend and sleeping with him without the expectation of marriage (and btw plenty of girls are ok with this so he’s not crazy in thinking that you would be ok with this). All you can do at this point is learn your lesson. Next time…don’t continue a romantic relationship with a guy for so long without clarifying exactly what the status of the relationship it (ie. friends vs. GF/BF and whether it’s leading to marriage).