I had love to hear your views.
I read a very interesting article on the same and you guys can read it also @ Adultery: Is It Ever Justified? | Psychology Today but please first give your views and then read the article.
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My Question..WAS it ever justified ? ...unles if i bring the concept of 'Muta' from the Shia sect into it .. :@:
Imo 99.9% of the time no, 0.1% of the time yes eg if someone has been **forced **into marriage and can't divorce.. I have sympathy for ppl in those situations..
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Nope.
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no.
My Question..WAS it ever justified ? ...unles if i bring the concept of 'Muta' from the Shia sect into it .. :@:
Who said it was ever justified?! Would you like to shed more light on Muta, i believe most of us don't know much about it.
Imo 99.9% of the time no, 0.9% of the time yes eg if someone has been **forced **into marriage and can't divorce.. I have sympathy for ppl in those situations..
But why can't the divorce and get on with their life? I believe if they can fall for adultery they must be capable of going ahead with the divorce too. If you know what i mean...
Na uh.
If they’ve been forced they might not have the option to divorce, might have been threatened by parents etc. Someone in that situation I wouldn’t blame for having an affair, tbh I prob wouldn’t consider the marriage valid in the first place..
Mutah is for Shias and haram for us, but misyar is kinda similar and is allowed:
'According to a Shī‘as, Mut’ah is permitted, but Misyar is considered to be prohibited by Shias, though it is not forbidden in Sunni’s. The similarity between Mut’ah and Misyar is that both of them are the kinds of Nikah and both require all the conditions applicable to Nikah. Nonetheless, in Misyar the couple voluntarily give up some of their rights, e.g., living together. Mut’ah, unlike ordinary Nikah, has a fixed date of expiry.
Every Nikah in Sunnis whether ordinary or not requires two adult male witnesses, whereas in Shī‘as witnesses are not required in Nikah. Shī‘a divorce requires two witnesses, whereas Sunni divorce can be executed by mere pronouncement of the words.’
Source: Misyar marriage - Wikipedia
Rightly or wrongly, a lot of ppl liken it to prostitution.. I know of quite a few Arab men who’ve come over to London and used these marriages as a means to having legalised ‘fun’ with no regards as to what might happen if the girl gets pregnant..
Adultery is never justified.
I get (if you consider from the perspective of Western values) not loving your partner anymore. But you owe your partner the dignity of ending your relationship before seeking out the companionship of another person.
Ending the first relationship because that relationship is not working out on its own basis makes sense (although some would argue that's the easy way out) and not because you've fallen in love/lust with someone else.
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Adultery has a negative connotation, doesn't it? This is because there's deception involved. Remove the deception.......be honest and up front with your partner........and there's less guilt to deal with.....and you can go about your new plans with greater peace of mind.
In other words, if you don't want to be with your partner, have tried to make the relationship work and are just not into the marriage anymore, then end it. Don't keep the other person in the dark. I'm not talking about Mutah here (which I don't agree with) but adultery in the general sense. There IS a proper way to go about doing things that would have fewer negative consequences for the various parties.
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adultery is not justified in any case, if u're so desperate then do it with your nikah-fied partner or else ask for permission and have another nikaah done
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NO!
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By using philosophical theories presented by 'humans' it is quite easy to pretty much prove every wrong , right . As the author said that even killing can be justified . But I look at it from a different dimension , and that is just make it legal . Make an ethical rule that cheating is legal and won't be punishable by law .
Now look at the effects of cheating . Every person cheating on his/her spouse . Level of trust will go down the drain . No personal responsibility . STD . Illegal Kids etc etc . These are all after effects . The rationalization that these scholars present regarding greater good , will always fall for negative . Our society as a whole will suffer . So breaking an ethical rule can never justify a greater good .
One should always keep it in his mind that it is wrong . Even he as done that he should never justify it , rather repent and never do it again .
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hmmm...justify justify hmmm...errr really hot identical triplets?
err yeah and dont ask me why I did not say identical twins.
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^:rotfl:
NO
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Men have forever been looking for reasons to justify adultery then they allowed it and called it religion so no one can question it....
waiting for the mod to come by and delete my post
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^which ‘men’ are u talking about?:aq:
Men have forever been looking for reasons to justify adultery then they allowed it and called it religion so no one can question it....
waiting for the mod to come by and delete my post
and before the religion there was no count
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it is justifiable but not everyone would accept the justification. just like any thing else.