- want to adopt a child - also have kid but want to adopt a child and bring her up in Islamic way…so how can adopt a child?
what shuld b the best age for adoption ?
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what they need to do depends heavily on where they are and where they want to adopt from. e.g. if they are in Pakistan and want to adopt from pakistan then its probably the easiest adoption that I know of.
what they need to do depends heavily on where they are and where they want to adopt from. e.g. if they are in Pakistan and want to adopt from pakistan then its probably the easiest adoption that I know of.
in pakistan but wanted to adopt a foreigner but in that case for example frm US its a very long process and jhanjats of court kachehri so decided to adopt frm pakistan but child shuld b under 6 months
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Why should the child be under 6 months? Most children don't have memories prior to 3 years old.
Adoption is a rigorous process.
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^not any special reason abt under 6, i think coz under 6 can easily settle and attached with new parents ..i think .
why its riigorous?
i guess the first few years can be quite crucial in the bonding?
fazeelat, how about contact agencies in pak?
this could be a good start:
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why would they want to adopt a kid from US when there are so many kids available for adoption in their own country and the race, ethnicity type of concerns are minimal.
the website sadzz gave is a very good site. let me add to it.
your only real hope from this list is edhi, others simply get too few kids and are backlogged so waiting lists are long.
There is an organization called WAR- women against rape and they do this too but are very very secretive about it. u need to know someone in the organization. hard pill for many to swallow, not teh the kid is responsible for its circumstances of birth but the organization has at times dropped kids at edhi because no one wants the kids. when u go with edh, teh kids could be abandoned, born out of wedlock, result of rape, unwanted girls, physical issues, genetic issues, some that u can see and know liek physical and geentic issues otehrs no one knows, but with WAR u know that its a rape case, as I said many ppl cant handle it with the thought of a rapists child in their home.
Now for Edhi- few things to note, if your relatives want to adopt an older child it will be faster because majority of edhi adoptions are of new borns..most of the adopted kids are presented as a couple;s biological kids due to society taboos and all.
Mrd Edhi personally prefers the kids to be adopted by overseas folks, in her own words those people get put ahead in line. you have to personally pass mrd edhi's litmus tests some of which is fairly unreasonable and you have to make multiple trips, I see the logic behind it, its her own way to sizing ppl up to see whether they are serious, will be able to provide a good upbrining etc, its a combo fo home study and background check in one.
when a kid is matched she will call and u have to pick up the kid or have someone pick up the kid asap, like the same day, or she will go to the person below you on the list. u have the kid for 72 hrs and u can do any medical tests and spend time with teh child..and then say yes or no, most ppl dont say no.
she is a very stern lady but you have to realize that she is lookign out for the child, and she is lookign out for you i.e. can you handle adoption. I had a personal run in with her when i felt she was being unreasonable and even posted about it but after cooling off and looking at the big picture I understand where she was coming from.
Hope this helps.
if your relatives are in Pakistan, I would say forget calling and all, just go to the office and meet her in person. she does like to see effort, tenacity and ongoing contact and all, because to hr that shows seriousness about it.
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^ she sounds lovely
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from her perspective, if somone 'adopts' the kid with an intention of just making teh kid into some sort of slave or someone is a human trafficker or a perv then she is responsible, and if the ppl are simply not prepared to handle adoption she sees that too. IN US u go through a lot of screenign to get permits and homestudy sizes u up and prepares u for it, she has to do all that on her own.
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adopting a child is a very big step,especially if u have ur own.so fazeelat first plz think about it,then make up ur mind and then stick to it,as its not a game:)
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^ which is a good thing..
u hear so many stories of young girls being molested and raped in homes... so if she's doing such a thing, good on her. The process should be rigorous, especially in a place like pakistan where young poor girls are being taken advantage of in so many homes..
makes me sick
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In Morocco, very few girls are available for adoption comapred to the number of boys. and its because ppl 'adopt' them but to serve as petit bons, basically maid in training so they will alwayds have these free help. Now it is justified as themn being in a safe environment (not always) and nto being in an orphanage, but many end u in te bustling sex trade industry in tangier not just as grown women but as children as well, makes one sick to think about how these innocent little souls are abused by these human trade predators.
from her perspective, if somone 'adopts' the kid with an intention of just making teh kid into some sort of slave or someone is a human trafficker or a perv then she is responsible, and if the ppl are simply not prepared to handle adoption she sees that too. IN US u go through a lot of screenign to get permits and homestudy sizes u up and prepares u for it, she has to do all that on her own.
well dont have any problem regarding money alhamdullilah so slavery ka tu swal he paida nahi hota.wnated to get frm US coz in thi case u can bring up a Christian or any other religion child in our Islamic way
adopting a child is a very big step,especially if u have ur own.so fazeelat first plz think about it,then make up ur mind and then stick to it,as its not a game:)
still thinking abt it and dont know waht would b the reaction frm others.
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have son 14 months old n also planning but still want to adopt. so is this a right time to adopt ?
You want to convert a Christian? :aq:
Why its rigorous??? 
Please fazeelat, let the adoption to others and have your own children.
wanted to convert a christ into islam
y? its a sunah