well dont have any problem regarding money alhamdullilah so slavery ka tu swal he paida nahi hota.wnated to get frm US coz in thi case u can bring up a Christian or any other religion child in our Islamic way
u dont have to convince me but mrd edhi.
and I was giving her rationale not saying anything about yoru family
lastly, for these abandoned kids, no one knows their faith, they could be teh kids of ppl from any faith.
Just make sure that in the efforts to 'save' some child from US, you dont end up taking away the possibility of a good life that some kid right in yoru city could have had.
There are chinese and african kids that can be adopted as well if adoptign someone from a diff faith is important and there seem to be quite a few available in sub saharan africa especially and they need help.
u dont have to convince me but mrd edhi.
and I was giving her rationale not saying anything about yoru family
lastly, for these abandoned kids, no one knows their faith, they could be teh kids of ppl from any faith.
Just make sure that in the efforts to 'save' some child from US, you dont end up taking away the possibility of a good life that some kid right in yoru city could have had.
There are **chinese **and african kids that can be adopted as well if adoptign someone from a diff faith is important and there seem to be quite a few available in sub saharan africa especially and they need help.
no wont adopt chinese coz own son is also like Chinese.
Yeah why only USA? Why not Africa? I mean people are over eating in USA but in other countries like Africa and Pakistan they're starving.
Kahin goray aur kalay ka chakar to nahin?
so thats the whole reason for adoption? and for your information, the US isnt the only country where you will find a 'christ' toddler! Please do let whoever it is that you will deal with, that you are only doing it so that you can convert a boy from 'christ' to Islam. Let them decide if thats a worthy cause to approve the adoption.
still thinking abt it and dont know waht would b the reaction frm others.
is ur hubby willing to take this step.as it depends on mutual understanding.plus i wonder what ur relatives say.as they play the negetive role.one of my cousin is adopted and you know what everybody makes sure to tell her that.at first she used to cry but now she is used to it.
Nobody will give you any baby after hearing your reasons! You know what? I dont think you are talking seriously, and if you are serious, then you have a problem. Take care sweetu and please let us christians with our religion and have tons of muslims on your own (with the help of your hubby, of course).
adopting is a virtue when you support a child.
if you can support children who do not have anyone, i personally feel it is great to support them.
although, when deciding to not have own child and only adopt, one has to be careful also about the spouse's preference.
hopefully, a common ground can be achieved.
I think Pakistan has plenty of christian, hindu, and other homeless or orphan children who have no faith. Actually they don't even know what faith is, so why don't you find someone from Pakistan then looking into other places.
fazeelat I hate to tell you this, and this is coming from soemone who is a very strong supporter of adoption. Your relatives are not ready and will be weeded out instantly if they try to adopt in US unless they put on a show and give made up answers.
Want to add another question, if people dont mind. Has anyone had any experince of adopting a child in the UK? Its unlikely, due to certain problems i have, that i will be able to have children of my own. But i dont see myself leading a happy life without a big family and little angels running around the house (IA). Has anyone been through the process?
from wt i knw in islam you cnt really adopt as in you cnt give the child you adopt ur name , and when she will grow up ur son n ur husband will still be na mehram for her.
plz read in to it
ofcorse u cn always support a child give it education n love
my husband is also willing to adopt baby not only one but 2 or three, but now due to some reasons we actually cant adopt a baby coz he s studying i have also some activities to make myself busy so InshaAllah in future we will try to do so.
from wt i knw in islam you cnt really adopt as in you cnt give the child you adopt ur name , and when she will grow up ur son n ur husband will still be na mehram for her.
plz read in to it
ofcorse u cn always support a child give it education n love
u dont have to give an adopted child your name.
lets look beyond semantics here.
the adopted person does not become a blood relative.
as far as mehram ne mehram goes, a few things
1) as mentioned by fazeelat, if the adoptive mother nurses the adopted child than that child has a mehram relationship with other children that women has
2) how many people really observe mehram stuff anyway, cousins hanging out, or close friends or family frineds, other relatives who are na mehram?
3) if we think that the dad or the bro would later go gaga on the girl and try some hanky panky then such a family has bigger issues.
^yes u cant give him/her ur name nd according to a hadith mother have to feed her milk to an adoptive baby.
You can give your name if the birth parents name is not known, and if you are not hiding teh fact that the child is not biologically yours. In old days only the sirname established info about your lineage, that is not the case now.
Its not a 'must'
