"Adoption" in Islam

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What are the specific requirements, according to Islam? At what age should the orphan be told that s/he is not the biological child?

This is what i got off of some website - not certain how accurate it is (because i was too tired to read all of it:o ). http://www.iica.org/invitation/adoption.html The article states that the Shari’ah “will not confer on the adopted person the status or rights of a natural son or daughter”. Does this apply to inheritance as well?

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…] There is no legal adoption in Shari’ah (Islamic law). It is haram (prohibited) for a person to legally adopt a son or a daughter of whom he is not the natural father. If a person adopts a son or a daughter, the Shari’ah will not confer on the adopted person the status or rights of a natural son or daughter. According to the Qur’an, if a person is not someone’s real son, he does not become his natural son merely by virtue of a declaration:

"… Nor has He made your adopted sons your (real) sons; that is simply a saying of your mouths. But A11ah speaks the truth, and He guides you to the (right way). Call them by (the names of their fathers; that is more just in the sight of A11ah. But if you do not know their fathers, they are your brothers-in-faith and your wards… " (Quran 33:4-5)

…] “Adoption” is also used in another sense. This use of adoption is not prohibited by Islam - that is, when a man brings home an orphan (yateem) and wants to raise, to educate, and to treat as his own child. In this case, he protects, feeds, clothes, teaches, and loves the child as his own without attributing the child to him- self, nor does he give him or her the rights which the Shari’ah reserves for natural children. This is a meritorious and noteworthy act in Islam, and the man who does it will be rewarded by being admitted to Paradise or Heaven. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said once,

"I and the one who raises an orphan, will be like these two in the Garden ", and he pointed to his middle and index fingers with a slight gap between the two.

There are also numerous Qur’anic revelations that support the taking care of orphans and enough cannot be said about how much Allah likes this noble and charitable act (Qur’an 2:220; 4:2, 6, 10, 127; 17:34).

A foundling or abandoned child (laqeet) is also regarded as an orphan, and one may apply the term ‘wayfarer’ (ibn al-sabeel) to him as well. In this case too, as in the orphans, the child’s lineal identity must be unchanged and parenthood to the natural parents should not be denied. When the child’s parents are unknown, they must be made brethren in faith and clients of their fellow Muslims (Qur’an 33:4-5).

If a man is childless and has no children of his own, and he wishes to benefit such a child (orphan or foundling) from his wealth, he may give him whatever he wants during his lifetime.

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Re: "Adoption" in Islam

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Originally posted by Nadia_H: *
What are the specific requirements, according to Islam? **At what age should the orphan be told that s/he is not the biological child?*

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I think that must be made clear from the beginning. The adopted child must be referred to by his/her biological fathers name.

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**I think that must be made clear from the beginning.*
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"Beginning" as in when the child is around 5, 6 years old - old enough to roughly understand concepts of "father" and "mother"?

The reason i am asking is because one of my Muslim friends found out at an extremely late age, when she was in her late 20s, that she was not the biological child of her 'parents'. i remembered reading somewhere that, according to Islam at least, the child should be told as soon as possible. i guess a specific age wouldn't really matter as long as the child is told as early as possible ?

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the child's surname should remain his/her original's father's name....
u cannot put ur name with his/her name....
so when the child is old enuff to know the meaning of it, he/she will know directly....

the adopted children have no share in inheritance....
except what the deceased leaves for them in his/her will....

also they remain namehram for the other children of the foster parents....

adopted son shud be a mehram for the woman (i.e. her nephew)
and adopted daughter shud be the man's niece....

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Thanks for your detailed reply, Armughal. That's precisely what i was hoping for.

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**the child's surname should remain his/her original's father's name....
u cannot put ur name with his/her name.... so when the child is old enuff to know the meaning of it, he/she will know directly....*
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What if the adopted parents don't know the actual name of the biological parents? In that case, can they select another name of their own choosing?

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Why adopt when you can have FOUR wives plus concubines - female slaves taken in jihad.

If one of the Four wife is barren then do a quickie divirce and re-stock and try luck again. One may repeat this process as many times as one wishes as long as the number of wives stays at FOUR. No limit on concubines though!

The goal is to "increase numbers of muslim - Breed & Multiply" so we can take over the world - one way or the other.

No wonder - "we R the fastest growing religion"

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:rolleyes: The Islam-bashing is getting a bit overdone now, perhaps.

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*Originally posted by hafeez123: *
Why adopt when you can have FOUR wives plus concubines - female slaves taken in jihad.

If one of the Four wife is barren then do a quickie divirce and re-stock and try luck again. One may repeat this process as many times as one wishes as long as the number of wives stays at FOUR. No limit on concubines though!

The goal is to "increase numbers of muslim - Breed & Multiply" so we can take over the world - one way or the other.

No wonder - "we R the fastest growing religion"
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or you can have as many children as you want without living with them as father, keep as many girlfriends as you want, marry just one or you can make a law so your wife can sleep with your neighbor, yeah, the "EVOLVING" laws.

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NADIA (21)
What I 've written is 100% TRUTH.

Care to prove that I 've written falsehood.

To add to the above comments of mine:

The Divorced wife can be put outside the door (thrown out) after the idaat period of three months and the husband would be in compliance of the so-called sharia’h.

Care to prove this incorrect?

The bashing that you refer to is minority-bashing by Islam majority. Where were you when all threads wre anti-minority?

CHANGEZ,
Those who believe what you have written also believe the Saudis and their cronies round the world when they say “Islam is a religion of Peace”.

If the western society is so corrupt, why do you and another million plus live here even when “your Sharia” forbids living in Kafir counries. You - not only- live in Kafiristan but eat off them and live off them.

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With all due respect my dear friend - please don't divert this thread. If you want to discuss polygamous marriages, please open a separate thread and discuss to your heart's content. This thread is specifically for adoption in Islam.

Muchas gracias.

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Mr. Hafeez, what islam did to the world is the greatest achievement of man to date.. To change the course of history is a thing that is not achieved in a few seconds.. it needs years of hard work and coniviction..
when you mention concubines, you forget that Arabs were used to 8 different kinds of practices when it came to wedlock.. even inheriting women.. and islam gradually changed their practices to most civilized in the world..
when a nation completely devoid of civil values is asked to change itself.. it must take some time.. and some gradual nature of transformation.. and Quran is witness to that..

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Originally posted by Nadia_H: *
With all due respect my dear friend - please don't divert this thread. If you want to discuss polygamous marriages, please open a **separate thread* and discuss to your heart's content. This thread is specifically for adoption in Islam.

Muchas gracias.
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Adoption in Sunni Islam is haraam for precisely the reason I've outlined above and POLYGAMY is part & parcel of the reason.

My friend :-)Learn what you follow before you engage in debate.

dey nada.

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**My friend :-)Learn what you follow before you engage in debate.*
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i shall try to keep this advice in mind :) Thanks, though, but i think i have a rough idea of what i am following.

If you wish to discuss the reasoning behind Islam's tolerance of polygamy and the precise conditions that Islam ordains for any husband wishing to have more than one wife, then that is excellent content for a new thread. i had specific queries regarding the process of 'adoption' in Islam - i.e., at what age should the child be told. i really don't want this thread to turn into another excuse to argue - but anyhow, i hope it won't go there.

Regards,
nadia

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*Originally posted by Nadia_H: *

i shall try to keep this advice in mind :) Thanks, though, but i think i have a rough idea of what i am following.

If you wish to discuss the reasoning behind Islam's tolerance of polygamy and the precise conditions that Islam ordains for any husband wishing to have more than one wife, then that is excellent content for a new thread. i had specific queries regarding the process of 'adoption' in Islam - i.e., at what age should the child be told. i really don't want this thread to turn into another excuse to argue - but anyhow, i hope it won't go there.

Regards,
nadia
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ACTUALLY,

I am discussing adoption and WHY sunni islam makes it HARAM!

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*Originally posted by hafeez123: *
ACTUALLY,

I am discussing adoption and WHY sunni islam makes it HARAM!
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Back it up with some verse, hadith, fatwa otherwise out the door.

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*Originally posted by Changez_like: *

Back it up with some verse, hadith, fatwa otherwise out the door.
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Aaah! Those hadiths of ala Bukhari and the gang of six!

Shows how much you know about your own sunni/wahabi fiqh (sharia'h)!

Legal ADOPTION is haram for sunnis and this is discussed in the very first post of Nadia_H.

Good Luck

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**Originally posted by hafeez123: *
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Shows how much you know about your own sunni/wahabi fiqh (sharia'h)!
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Which fiqh does allow "Legal" adoption?

Legal ADOPTION is haram for sunnis and this is discussed in the very first post of Nadia_H.

Adoption is permissible but has limitations, everything is not the way you would like to. Islam is asking for TRUTH, tell the "adopted" that s/he is not "biological" child, and keep it that way, you can care all you want for him/her by providing whatever you can Islam does not forbid you. But to claim on his father-being when not is not allowed.

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Originally posted by Changez_like: *
*Originally posted by hafeez123: *
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Shows how much you know about your own sunni/wahabi fiqh (sharia'h)!
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Which fiqh does allow "Legal" adoption?

Legal ADOPTION is haram for sunnis and this is discussed in the very first post of Nadia_H.

Adoption is permissible but has limitations, everything is not the way you would like to. Islam is asking for TRUTH, tell the "adopted" that s/he is not "biological" child, and keep it that way, you can care all you want for him/her by providing whatever you can Islam does not forbid you. But to claim on his father-being when not is not allowed.
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The moderator keeps deleting my post.
So now, all of a sudden, you know everything. One post ago you were challenging me. There is a word to describe the likes of you.

Legal adoption means just that - an adoption without any restrictions. Sunni Fiqh does not allow legal adoption. Whatever it allows cannot be called adoption. It is more like taking in a stray animal and looking after its need.

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hafeez beta, kis ne bataya hai ke sunnis me adoption haraam hai????
ur local imam told u this????
or u read it in the story books????

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*Originally posted by armughal: *
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hafeez beta, kis ne bataya hai ke sunnis me adoption haraam hai????
ur local imam told u this????
or u read it in the story books????
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Here's another who has no idea what he follows?

The RESTRICTIONS on adoption is:
-The adpted child cannot be given the adopted parents last name.
From the beginning the adopted CHILD is reminded that it is different.

-The adopted child cannot share in the inheritance.
I wonder if the adopted mother can 'breast-feed' the adopted child. Or, is the mother's milk only for the blood child.

-The adopted child is not a mehram.
In other words as soon as the child attains adult-hood, it can no longer be alone with certain members of family.

Such laws are / were meant for bedouin or goat /camel herding society as was the case with the 7th century arabs .