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No, boys are burhapay ka sahara. 
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girls are aankho ka taara…
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Kid has to stay in Pak for around 6 months for local legal process from when adoption process has started. That means that if one is not able to be in Pak for 6 months but have family and help to take care of the child that can work.
That's from when a child is available, waiting list is long especially newborns because of many reasons older kids have less of a wait. Older the child less likely that the child will be adopted.
Costs on Pak side are low,majority of costs will be the homestudy and fees here in US. Plus travelexpenses.
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I also wanna adopt a little bubba from Pakistan! but in the future. Not right now! PCG if you ever do please do post up all the stuff you went through! Inshallah you will!
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There was a poster on here who mentioned she had or was planning to adopt from Pakistan (Princess something I think?).. Should be in the parenting section if you want to do a search..
There was a really good documentary here in the UK about a celeb/presenter called Saira Khan who also adopted a baby from Pak.. She managed it even tho she had a non-Muslim husband which I didn't realise was possible.. might be on Youtube..
I was about to suggest the same. It was quite informative. It took her about a year or more.
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Here's the thing. Not to guilt trip anyone. I work hard for my money, and inshallah, I'll save up enough for this over the next few years.
But honestly - pakistani families often spend that much on a trip to Pakistan solely meant to establish that year's wardrobe for the daughters in the family for purposes of rishta hunting (very common around where I grew up). Can you imagine how many babies can be adopted with all that money?
Adoption is very complicated. It's much more than giving a child a place in your home. The children have many issues and attachment problems. It needs a lot of research and soul searching. In uk u have a home study which I know is very invasive. You have to think about how it may impact your career. I have no idea what sort of support the children in the pak orphanages get, and in many cases the problem surfaces in later years.
When it works adoption is beautiful,
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What's the purpose of having to stay there though? That's what I don't get. It's not like they can observe the environment where the kid would grow up, because that environment is overseas.
U need to know the child's environment, where she or he is from, get a bit of perspective, Cz wen they grow up you have to try and explain why is it they were given up, if they can trace their birth parents and any other questions your child may have. PCG there is a uk website mumsnet you can check out their adoption board, also other adoption boards, they are very informative.
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Why not adopt someone from your country of residence? That can't be harder than adopting from Pakistan. As far as the kids religion goes Muslims believe that all kids are born as Muslims, so there's no problem there. The only problem you might have is finding a kid who shares your ethnicity. Why adopt someone from Pakistan?
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I can atleast tell for sure that the passport authority here would drive the parents crazy for documentary requirements and it would one of the longest and most painful part in this whole adoption procedure
and as far my info goes unmarried people can not adopt atleast not from orphanages. However I do personally know a lady who was single and she adopted her sister's son and this was like 20 years back and all was ok at that time.
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I am/was desperate to adopt from Pakistan. Had done all the paperwork and everything. I was accepted by the Edhi foundation. The massive hurdle was coming back to Australia. Australia doesn't recognise adoptions with Pakistan, so there was no way i could have come back with a child. It's massively unfair.
An Australian family friend adopted her devraani's child in Pak. Her devraani is Canadian, came to Pak to give birth, and then went back to Canada. The baby is 2 years old now.. and this friend has not been able to come back to Aus with the child.
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Why not adopt someone from your country of residence? That can't be harder than adopting from Pakistan. As far as the kids religion goes Muslims believe that all kids are born as Muslims, so there's no problem there. The only problem you might have is finding a kid who shares your ethnicity. Why adopt someone from Pakistan?
There has been 1 local adoption in my state in the last 5 years. No one gives their child up anymore as single-mothers are helped out by the govt and it's acceptable to be a single-mohter in society too.
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^ Thanks for clearing that up for me. Abortions being legal and widely available also lowers the number of unwanted kids.
Tough situation 
. Hope you find some other way of adopting from Pakistan or from anywhere.
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I was talking about the Edhi Centre in NY. They are the ones who don't allow couples with a biological child to adopt.
PCG yeah I think it's going to be hard to adopt as a single woman from a country like Pakistan. Unfortunately they don't realize that a single woman is capable of providing a child a much better upbringing as opposed to them being brought up in an orphanage.
i don´t agree with you . there are a lot of babies who even lost their parents in disasters in pak, pak laws are not that tough
but depends on the law of the country of adopter. many children after earth quake were misused by some people, some took girls to use them as servants, some took baby boys who were having many daughters etc
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it is not only edhi is available to help you but there are many children who really need to be adopted by some good families.
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Peace PCG
This thread is proving that you are truly thinking of moving into another territory … Alhumdulillah! Would it be too much to buy a large house in Pakistan, with ground and set-up an orphanage (effectively adopting multiple children) - put people there to run the house and teach the kids - sort of like a boarding school …(Try to get charity status). I have similar ideas, inshaAllah … but not ready yet …
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@ psyah and PCG..MASHALLAH MAY ALLAh talah qubool your neyk niyatii
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Ameen
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Edhi doesn't let single mom's adopt kids & the only exception i know of this is Hadiqa Kiyani, because of the obvious reasons, she is well-established can give the child a stable future etc. I find the law unfair too PCG but living in a patriarchal society what can u expect?
Maybe there are some other smaller adoption centers that have less stringent rule for independent single women who want to adopt.
Also in Islam the focus is a family unit not just "children", but I know a lot of single women who would make amazing mums rather then the dads who take custody of their kids and then leave them with their amma to bring them up.
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It would work if u yourself were in pak and would oversee the running of the orphanage. This is a very naive way of looking at it. The kids are extremely vulnerable. How would you ensure that they arent at risk of abuse from the people whom u entrust them to, if you are in a different country.