Adopting a child - impact?

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Re: Adopting a child - impact?

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Oh good god… Adoption is allowed is Islam but there are a few guidelines. Key one is inheritance and the other is not hiding that the child is not biological offspring.
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can you elaborate that not hiding from whom? is this not hiding from your spouse, your immediate family or from the adopted kid.
because i always feel that if you tell the child that you have adopted him/her that could shatter her/his world. there are going to be thoughts like why my real parents put me up for adoption, the feeling of being worthless, the fight that starts within about the real identity etc, so is it really necessary that you reveal this fact to the kid or it is only preferred in Islam but not necessary?

You need to tell the child about adoption in an age appropriate way so that in a way the child always knows their adoption story. From what social workers and psychologists say it should be done in a way that the child always knows that they are adopted and not reveal it to them suddenly. Also you should highlight the positives as in how much joy they bring you and that even if someone else gave birth to them you are their parents because they were meant to make your family complete.

About other people they will probably know you adopted but you dnt have to tell random people all the details of the adoption just as you wouldn’t tell random people intimate details of your family.

It is much worse for the child to find out (and find out they will) accidently and see it as something to be ashamed of.

its not only an Islamic requirement it is essential to acknowledge your child’s past and in UK you wouldn’t even get approved to adopt if you want to keep this a secret as hiding it can have much worse consequences.