Please can I request that everyone who reads this, gives an HONEST ANSWER…
On first meeting a person, how much does their skin colour affect the level of your interaction with them? I will be frank here, do you, or do you not, be less inclined to be friendly towards them if they are darker skinned, and more friendly towards them if they are fairer skinned?
Think of situations that you have been in, where there is more than one person that u r being introduced to / speaking to, and one of them is darker than the other. This colour range can be WITHIN the same ethnicity, or across ethnicities.
As an example, there are 2 guys u r being introduced to, similar build / height / features etc. One is a very dark skinned pakistani with pitch black hair and a dazzling smile, the other is a fair skinned bloke. Would u be more put off by the dark skinned man with dazzling smile?
Or 2 girls side by side, one is very dark, the other fair, would u rather be more enthusiastic about one or the other?
I don’t mean attraction of the opposite sex here, I mean just about any social situation.
BE HONEST PLEASE.
This isn’t an inflammatory thread, it’s not a thread to show that one colour person is better than another, BUT I have observed telling behaviour from some situations that make me wonder just how un-biased we really are.
Lack of confidence is obvious if one is suffering from inferiority complex just because the color of his/her skin which leads to other people discriminating while dealing with him/her.
Other than that, I do not think or believe there is any kind of discrimination regarding that where I grew up (a Pakistani metro) or where I am now (far East).
Lack of confidence is obvious if one is suffering from inferiority complex just because the color of his/her skin which leads to other people discriminating while dealing with him/her.
Other than that, I do not think or believe there is any kind of discrimination regarding that where I grew up (a Pakistani metro) or where I am now (far East).
So kakaballi, r u saying that if a person has insecurities about their own skin colour, this is picked up by others who interact with him / her and their behaviour is a response to the individuals own insecurities?
I'm not sure about that, bcos that's like saying that everyone who has been discriminated against bcos of their skin colour, it's their own fault???
My honest openion and I think my attitude regarding skin and its color is Mostly , how clean and neat he/she is(not the blackness or gorapun) plus how decently he/she is hidden in wearings.
then is of course his/her interacting style etc.
Yes, I have a bias toward lighter skinned desi women. However, I also appreciate darker skinned women especially if they have nice features and figure.
If the guy is super dark, like south Indian type, then I'm less inclined. But I know two south Indian guys and they are really cite and dark, so...it's more about the person and the way they behave. If someone has all the qualifications and then they act arrogant or jerk-ish, I've lost interest.
Thank you for your honest opinions, I wonder why colour has an effect. Really it shouldn't, but for some it does make a difference.
I have been thinking about this, and I have thought of the word "CONNECTION". Do we have more of a connection to people who look like us as individuals? I mean, can we connect less easily to people who are more darker / lighter than us?
You forgot the most important detail. How big is the rack? The bigger rack gets my attention always!
Exhibit A
so predictable....can you two please come up with a slightly different routine now......I'm bored of this one.
in answer to the thread: no, I don't care what color you are or whether you have stripes or polka-dots.......your intellect determines my level of interaction with you.
and point b: yes.....to a certain degree a person's own insecurities with their physical characteristics determine the behaviour that other people will have with them.
example: someone who is self-conscious and has an inferiority complex due to their image will often come across as timid and shy (i.e. no eye contact, one word answers, closed body language, etc.) thereby discouraging people from interacting with them as compared to someone that is extroverted and engages freely.
Yes I am I don't like fair skinned men or women, I am more into wheatish or Hawaiian complexion if we are talking abt opposite sex attraction but I don't mind being friends or acquaintance of any complexion ppl, what has complexion to do wid ppl getting along????????????
it depends on how they are acting. i would be 'more enthusiastic' towards the person who gives a friendly vibe - the one with a smile on their face, who seems friendly and open and makes initiating conversation easy.
i think it's the same for others. take for example me and my younger sister. we don't look at all alike and she is darker skinned. however, unless i'm being super friendly, people will often comment on how sweet, friendly and helpful she is and prefer to talk to her. i've become cynical in my old age and often can't be bothered to make conversation. i've also been told that i'm quite intimidating and tend to ask people questions like i'm gonna be judging their answers etc.
so! i really can't say i have noticed myself doing this nor experienced yet.
If you're not talking about attraction, then what does it matter? I really could care less what they look like- dark or light- all that matters is personality when it comes to social interactions. If you're talking about getting married to that person, then i think it makes a little more difference.
Also, I agree about the well-groomed aspect. I think if someone is darker, its harder for them to appear well-groomed. I think lighter people have it easier. One of my friends is darker but since her skin is not uniform in color, she looks unkempt. My other friend's skin is also blotchy, but since she's light skinned, it doesn't look as bad. But you know, i have another dark skinned friend and she looks pretty, clean and well-groomed, so it might just be that first friend is not very clean...
I like guys who are not that fair. I like them tanned or little on the darker side.
For friendship with girls - I have noticed I was not partial to fair or dark skinned girls... but I realized that my so called friends in college encouraged me to stop being friends with people who were overweight, people with glasses, people with darker skin.
I was stupid to ignore one of my dearest friend because she was fat and wore glasses. She was a genuine person. I felt I had to stop hanging out with her because my friends always made fun of her - I would tell them to shut up - but they wouldn't. I regret making the wrong decision - and keeping those losers instead of a gem of a person my friend was.
Can't change history.. but I would definitely ask her for forgiveness because I ignored her to "fit" in the circle. Such loser =(
Okay, I admit it... I'm biased towards brown skin. Mein sirf brown-skinned logon sai dosti karti hoon and white-skinned ppl make me feel uncomfortable :@:
I've always been drawn more to the tanned type skintones (Cristiano Ronaldo type colour) than very pale which I find a bit sickly if I'm honest. My other half is white English but darker than me, I never liked the classic porcelain skin thing a lot of our parents find attractive. Also, to me it's usually features that make a person attractive, not that old desi idea that the whiter a person's skin is the more beautiful they are, even if they have a nose shaped like concorde.. To me Bipasha Basu is absolutely gorgeous but to my Mum she's not attractive at all..