Salaam
I personally think husbands need the respects. In Islam its clearly written the husband is the bread winner of the family. Its important to understand why men and women can never be equal, there are some things which men can do and women cant and there are something which women can do and men cant. Allah SWT is the one who created and he knows us better than anyone else.
We are second generation Australians here and all the ladies in the family talk to their husbands using the word "aap". When my eldest sister got married she use to call her husband by his name, he didnt like it neither did our parents. Whenever she talks about him she doesn't say his name but says your xyz bhai....