adding potential on FB

Lifestyle Relationships
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yay or nay?

currently in the process of talking to someone, we’re pretty good friends at this point. He keeps asking to be my fb friend…I don’t know why! I’ve told him I’d rather wait until things progress further.
what do you all think? am i making a big deal?

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Re: adding potential on FB

just add them when you are completely comfortable with the idea and do not get pressurised.

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U don't need to add him until ur relation finalize.

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Don't add him on facebook until its final. Better not to reveal all your friends' names and every other info to him until he is officially your fiance.

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I say NO NO NO...dont add him until he is officially ur fiance and u can tell him you dont think its appropriate to add him just yet

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I think you should add him but on limited privacy i.e. you show only very few things. This will be good since you will know about him a lot via his facebook account.

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Does facebook represent the true personality and character of a person? I wonder a person will mention that he drinks and sleeps around on his facebook account. People usually put up a good face on their facebook and you can't get to know much about them through facebook. But you might get to know how a person is with her friends, how he interact with him/ her etc but this doesn't be the main factor in deciding whether to marry a person or not. Afterall, people used to get married to each other when there was no facebook.

But you never know. You might get to know something from a person's facebook. I am not sure.

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From his pictures & wall etc., you can get an idea
- What kind of a circle he hangs around with
- What sort of family he has
- If he is smoking in any pictures, if he is chipkofying with girls etc. and yes that all is there on FB of many people
- what sort of interactions he has

Its my personal opinion, that one can extract some information via fb only if the other person has revealed enough.

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Ever heard about limited profile ?

I reckon not adding him will only put some doubts in his mind as if you got something to hide ..

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I think you can easily tell him that you dont think it is appropriate until things are finalised. People asking questions and whatnot

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Make sure you remove all exes and that he won't have access to your hottie friends.

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^lolzz

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bad idea

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Only after it's finalized. But if you do add him, there's no need to tweak your privacy settings for him.. Everybody hates the privacy game, why would you add a person in the first place? If you have questionable pics, make tagged pictures only viewable to you.

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Re: adding potential on FB

Why not?

If you are open to the relationship, why not show him that?

I would add. And I've added people who family members have met for rishtas if they seem like nice people worth getting to know.

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Don't add him till your rukhsati. Even if you add him after engagement , do it on a limited basis. Never share any password even with your husband. You can share password when he has retired and old enough to share the responsibility

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Only losers ask for pwds … we - the wise ones break in :snooty:

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Mashallah.

I have reported this self confession to FBI and Scotland Yard.

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They didnt do much last time :chai:

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Because that time it was not I who reported , this time they are bound to take action.