Addiction and Recovery

Lifestyle Relationships
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So I know there are millions of helping with addiction sites, but I want something deeper. Something on a more personal level. Have you ever helped someone, through an addiction, or were you ever helped? Please share.

I’m sick of losing what was started, I’m sick of guilt trips, I’m sick of tears on both sides, I’m sick of my hopes falling off a cliff everytime.

I know its not easy to stop, but is it really that hard??

We just can’t get past the first step. I believe you should face it head on, and not hide from your addiction, is that wrong?

I’m told that, “I’m trying my best,” but I don’t see any results, its been years!

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OMD i hear exactly what ur on about....

Unfortunatly i havent been able to stop the addiction, ive heard it myself 'oh ive tried' or 'oh im trying again' but in truth you can never recover untill the addicted person doesnt build the will power themselves to stop it.

It got to the point where i wud discourage them and they wud be like well this is who i am u cant change me i cant change me no one can so just live with it coz the person got fed up of the 'support' they asked for.

In all honesty i think ive tried and its pissed me off to an extreme. I cant b botherd any more coz i cant make the decisions for someone elses actions they need to do it themselves!
Sorry this aint a recovery story, its more of a failure which ive learnt to live with untill the next person tries stopping for good

حُکم تیرا ھے تو تعمیل کیۓ دیتے ہیں
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A couple of friends I know quit smoking cold turkey , one day they said this is it and they stopped and have been nicotine free for years.
On the other hand I have seen some friends try and try again but have failed so far. I have also seen some who are alcoholic and I have cut ties with them , they have no urge or intention to quit .
Some university professor I know have kids and all but never tried to quit smoking. He has some health issues but still never tried to quit.
It guess the urge to quit has to come from within , the stimulus can be , kids , wife , health , girl friends, but in the end the person has to have a strong urge and will power to get rid of that addiction.

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Power to stop comes from with in. If any thing ,you can help that person to build that strength.
While working-on/helping him take good care of your self. This whole thing can bring a healthy person down.

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It may be a bit easier to understand if you look at it with a wider view. How many overweight people do you know? Why are they overweight? Addiction to food. Being overweight can be as unhealthy (or even more) than some other addictions. So why dont overweight people just stop overeating, stop hiding from their addiction to food? Ask THEM if its easy....

sorry I dont mean to sound harsh here. But the reality is that anything in excess is unhealthy and we understand some excesses but not others. Iit all boils down to the same thing really. Love of excess and addiction to excess.

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well what's the addiction and who is the addict?

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Marwah:* Someone really close to me and the addiction is pot/*nicotine.

Mirch: So tell me about the difference of attitude between those who are nicotine free and those who have failed. The nicotine free one's, were they very enthusiastic about stopping, and WHAT attitude did they have before, during, and after(now) about this?

I mean the before sounds positive to me, and I feel like he is ready to take the jump and its all sounds really good, and I am there every second. But we can't get past even 2 days(the during) part. Its so hard, I feel like I'm holding on by a thread!

Lama: I am getting to that point, not because i'm giving up, but I have to understand his limits and his strength first. I know one day he will be able to do it. I mean its that persons fault to start with, but now that they're are addicted, you have to take it one step at a time, because its prolly 10x more frustrating for them.

PM and Mamaof3: I know I'm only the stimulus, and all I can do is help build the strength, which is no problem, but what I can't figure out is*: What pushes him to want to stop, himself or me? *Either way, it does take a toll on his mind, which is what bothers me! I mean if a takes a toll on you, wouldn't you want to change??? Besides that, when he wants to do it, I think he runs away and does not deal with the addiction itself. Therefore, when like two three days go by, there is only so much ignoring he can do, and he jumps right back to step one and fails.

I know its so wrong but I'v tried the guilt road, tears and so on, nothing works. I know its one step at a time, and for each person the steps and the amount of time spent at each step is different. And the hard part only comes when he's trying not to smoke at all.

Sometimes I think I should just stop, but the day he tells me or I find out he smoked, I get so mad, and I wanna be able to cut off all ties, which I can't. So sometimes I feel like I'm only trying to stop him because **I *get mad and *I'm **bothered. So I feel like I'm being selfish. I hope someone understood what I just said.

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pot isn't addictive. your friend is just fooling you. :D

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Mixed with nicotine it is, I think I left that part out!

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nicotine n other toxic stuff in cigarettes is way worse than pot..

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Oh pot.. hmmm

Does he even recognize it as addiction? My way to fix thing is pulling instead of pushing.
I try not to tell ppl what they are doing is wrong and for so and so reason they should stop.

I try to see what their other ambitions are, Then pick one of those thing and make him love it more then he luved pot.

Say If I was addicted, you could work on my luv for sport to pull me out of the addiction. By telling me; how I was missing on sports+out doors etc.. Or trying telling/reminding me how beautiful it would be to play and do out doors. etc etc..

My cousin started drinking a lot, after he got married and got depresses over his marriage. He gained weight too. Every one tried but nothing worked. In summer we cousins went to abbotAbad.
Every year He use to lead us.He was in very good shape. That was the first day when he was behind every one.
That day he realized what he was missing and what he had lost.

He gave up drinking then.

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mixed with nicotine, it is a cigarette addiction, aka.. your friend is a smoker, and probably an attention wh0re. stop giving him attention.

aren’t you the hijabi girl whose blood boiled because a girlfriend’s bro wanted to shake your hand? who are all these guy friends now? :confused:

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So don't badnamm the pot plz

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^ yeah..what she said..tehhee

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Q- First of pot can be an addiction, for some people, its a type of an anxiety, mixed with nicotine, it gets worse.

all these guy friends? Please share all these guy friends of mine that your talking about. If you don't know, don't assume!

PM: I'v kind of tried that, but then I'M the one who gives up!

Sher ik vaari fer
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well didn't you post a few days ago about some close guy friend's relationship troubles as well?

anyway, pot is NOT physically addictive. even coffee is more addictive than pot. if your franship munda is really addicted to pot, he should see a doc asap. maybe his central nervous system has a different bio-chemistry than humans.

don't feed the attention-seeking troll.

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hmmm then you can just wait for him to come out of it.
Be patient.

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Well hijabi girls got to do the life too, Got to support family and relatives too.

Dont worry too much about intolerant, name calling book worms.

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No to the red part!

But thanx for the rest.

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you are welcome. :slight_smile:

and btw, beware of unclejis who pretend to be young and ask franship from ppl like you. :hehe:

Timepass - October 2013