Actively looking while engaged?

is this common?

I ask because I know someone who has done this. a Pakistani girl got engaged to a gora (merely for the sake of being with someone cuz she was getting old according to her she was 29 at the time, and didn’t like any rishtas that came her way) yet was still actively looking for other men. She had even asked me to help her look. she said if she came across a Pakistani man who was even a smidge interested in her, she would break off her engagement, and give it a shot.

I told her this was cheating, she disagreed.

Re: Actively looking while engaged?

Engaged:

having formally agreed to marry.
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synonyms:
betrothed, promised in marriage, pledged in marriage; More

So yes, looking while engaged is cheating. And pathetic.

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That's what happens hen people are given too much freedom to choose their life partners.

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so, people should not be given a choice? or, have limited choices ?

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I am a Pakistani man ("larka") ...and little more than smidge interested. Please connect us. I am married but I hope she understands Islam allow us to have 4 wives. Look at the bright side, she will be following Islam :)

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^ oh shoot. I thought I m private messaging you :(

PS: This is what happen when we make Shadi and Talaq a game. O koi nahi, yee nahi aur sahi.....and aur nahi, tu aur sahi attitude will only take us down.

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If you have been associated with one person and a mangani is a prequel to marriage than why go looking for others? Its like being nikkahed and looking for girls or guys because abhi rukhsati nahi hui? Doesn't make any sense. It's not only cheating its immoral. I hope the guy finds out her true self and leaves her for a better girl.

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Pathetic behavior. That's cheating, in any culture. The guy needs to break this off and find himself a better person.

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I agree with you McPendo.

I was asking about the too much freedom part you mentioned

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She's trying to have her cake and eat it too.

Meaning she has someone she will marry already.

BUT in her mind, since he's a white guy, it doesn't really matter.

She's not taking her engagement seriously because he's not Pakistani.

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So, you want us to pass a verdict on her "Right" or "wrong" ??
I guess its "right" based on who you are...and "wrong" based on who you are.
would I do it? I haven't yet...I hope I probably wouldn't.

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no, I don't want a verdict of right and wrong. I had asked if this was common, I have only seen this happen once to an engaged person, I didn't know if alot of people did this ..

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so this was a random poll for a show of hands? :p

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just a thread/topic to talk about, just like everything else on this forum :)

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No.

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Don't help her cheat; don't invite that kinda karma into ur life.

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this is not common and plain wrong.
If the girl was so desperate to be with someone then instead of deceiving this gora guy by having an engagement with him with an intention to break it off later, she should have found someone agreeing to have an open relationship with no commitments for future and with an understanding that the options for both partners are open.

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Population of Pakistan = 180 million. Male population of Pakistan 90 million. Male population of marriagle Age (50%)= 45 million. Single Males available = +- 20 million . Muslims males available 19 million. SHe had 19 million male Pakistanis to choose from and she goes and chooses a freaking firangi ? Please let me barf and come back and continue....

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Why did she choose a white guy?She must be really desperate, I doubt she's even a virgin now

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Lol how old are you ?