Actively looking while engaged?

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she married the guy eventually.. what does virginity have anything to do with this?

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it’s not so easy :bummer:

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worst is what im seeing these days

an engaged girl nt only looking but also doing something else in the office premises
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aaaaahh

mery khuda aisa q hy

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but why are we all worried about this

theres not even a single thing to ponder about

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Because it sucks when people have someone waiting for them (their fiance, boyfriend, whatever) and they are out still looking around to see if the other side is greener. SMH

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Although being engaged and actively looking for someone else is absolutely wrong, I can still understand where this girl is coming from. In most cases, it takes a lot of convincing and begging for Pakistani parents and families to accept their daughter marrying any other ethnicity and even then they are not truly happy and constantly remind the girl of all the negative stereotypes and what could go wrong. How the fiancé's culture and language is different and what will people say etc. etc. This creates a lot of pressure on the girl and even though she may truly care for her fiancé, she still wants to please her parents and society's wishes.

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^So wouldn’t the story make more sense if she actually cared about the white guy rather than just be using him :hmmm:

Seems a bit odd for a Pakistani girl to be using a white guy when she has potentially so much to lose..

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Lose what? I just pointed out that in general, there is a lot more pressure on Pakistani girls to marry someone from the same culture then Pakistani guys. How do we know she doesn't truly care about her fiancé but was torn by society AFTER her engagement. Also, I clearly said that what she is doing is wrong but it's not wise to quickly judge her in the sense that she is only using the white guy.

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^Erm reputation.. Most seem to have problem with pre-marital relationships full-stop.. How many Pakistani men are realistically going to say "yes" to a girl they know was just engaged to a white guy 5mins ago..

Bit in bold makes it sound like she couldn't care less about him imo.. Normal people don't consider dropping people they have feelings for so lightly..

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That's true, should've read the last part more carefully. Never mind.

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mostly it appears that theres a person for the engaged ones but sometimes there isn't anyone
things might not always be the same as expected

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my opinion about society pressure is, that you shouldn't do something just because society wants you to. I mean, is that same society there for you during your accomplishments? the new job you got hired for? finishing your education? buying a house? NO. But, they are there for you when it's time to ridicule you for our life (bad) choices. same thing for marriage, just because others think it's time for you to settle down cuz you're getting old, or whatever the case is, doesn't mean you just up and marry the first person you see to make society happy. puhleeease. I personally would only make society happy once they actually care about me and my life, not only when I am the juicy topic of bad gossip.

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Of course, I agree 100%. I would be the last person to advise someone to follow the exact rules of society, In my previous quote, I was pointing out a mere reason for the OP's friend's actions.

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helo i know a lot of stories from desi families where mom get her son engaged to a girl and still looks for more girls behind the curtain.wen or if desired better girl is found the previous engagmnt is broken off
.i know this one girl who got engaged to a guy both used to go to same uni and girl had green card and there were benefits guy was getting from girl to help him apply for job using her connections and all.then another one of my fnrds got rishta thru some1 for the same guy and she was like haaaaaaiiin this guy is engaged and all.wen the middle person asked the mommy of the guy she replied by saying ooo that girl she is so ugly i want a pretty gilr for my boy we r staying wid that girl just so my boy gets gd job and all
there was another couple at my uni both in love with each other and after years of convincing boys mom finaly agreed on getting both engaged there was a whole big ceremony and all but then another girl told that same guys momy is sending rishta to my home saying k that chalak girl has phasaofy my poor innocent boy i got them engaged so that my poor boy dznt get upset of leave studies but there is no way m gonna continue that engagemnt
also there ws another situation in sm1 very close to my family the boys side did baat paki wid grls family but wasnt willing to take thngs further they were making bahans abt getting engaged or wont say anythng abt the wedding plan just delaying the whole thng so the girls dad got a lil supicious and turned out they wanted the girls side to be the stand by backup type while they still had time to search if they cd find any1 better and then go wid the better person and leave the poor girl behind