Accepting gifts from the in laws during the engagement period

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Re: Accepting gifts from the in laws during the engagement period

@Disney_Princess

I agree with Nads over this, I think the main issue with OP’s family is that the other family never seems to visit. I don’t really think it’s about the fact that her MIL gave the gifts in her own home.

I’m also failing to understand why your fiance had an argument with you over this. You are in your parents custody for the time being and what they say goes; if he had a problem with it then he should have taken it up with them.

@Grateful

I totally agree with the op. My parents would also not approve of me collecting gifts. In addition you are right before marriage obviously you have to.follow your own parents wishes and do not think there is any justification for your fiance to be mad at you. If you start apologizing today for things that you are not even at fault for then you will end up doing it your entire life. Posters here are acting like gift is something so big and you should be grateful…but you are investing your whole life into this relation and you deserve it. Plus the fact that your mil hardly visits is weird…

@ZareenKhan

I think if everything else was fine between the two families, this wouldnt be such an issue. However, i am still of the opinion that its just more respectful to go to the family’s house to wish them and then gift them. Though at times there may be circumstances that don’t allow it so it shouldnt be held against them unless its a pattern they follow.

this is not going to help things. Her fiance had a right to speak to her..and the issue was about the gifts ! The OP already realised her mistake after 2-3 posts and felt guilty about it!