Absolutly fuming....!!!!1

khattichic · January 10, 2012, 4:32pm

Re: Absolutly fuming…!!!1

Nadz- You need some therapy(not trying to be mean, but you need to talk to someone) or some 101 course on relationships and how to handle people.
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People who stay sane and have calmness/happiness in their life are not the ones who have ZERO issues in their life. It’s those people who know how to handle the worst of the worst situations.** I’m pretty sure I’m at least 5 years younger than you but I can tell you with fully certainty, the problems you discuss are so tiny and pointless but your own negative analysis on the situation is what makes a mountain out of a molehill.

Your MIL may not treat you like a princess but is she really that bad of a person? Okay so, they made a big deal for your daughter to go to the wedding, but couldn’t you have said something like ‘she wont be able to come to the wedding, but iA’ when she’s grows up I will let her stay with you guys?'So your MIL had an issue with you and hubby going out late at night in Pakistan. First off why wouldn’t you take your baby with you (when you know MIL wont be happy) and second, if you two wanted to stay out, DO IT. You two are grown adults. But it seems you don’t want to take responsibility but would rather get a consent or approval from an adult and if you didn’t get it than you wanna complain. . And fine, your husband doesn’t always understand your feelings, but doesn’t he love you? Didn’t he care enough about you to let you go to UK to give birth?

My SO of five years, has told me multiple times that I wont be just a DIL in his parents house but a daughter. So if I want to wake up at noon I can or if I come home late, it’s no big deal. Do you see something wrong in his statements? I do. He’s a man, and he will never understand what his mom expects of me (even if she loves me like her daughter). She’s a really nice person, but BELIEVE ME, she will be very hurt if I woke up at noon like a little princess and no housework was done. Nadz, do you see where I’m going with this? Men won’t always understand situations correctly but that’s why they have wives in their lives.

You have it pretty good and with a little more sucking up you can make it even better. But you or your in-laws or your husband will never be happy until YOU understand how to handle situations.

p.s dang that was long

She’s right…talking to a therapist helped me tremendously, and taught me how to deal with my own in-law issues…I have no shame in admitting that…