Re: Absolutly fuming…!!!1
UFFFF…TOBAH LARKI…TUMKO KIS ZABAAN MAIN SUMJHAON!!!
Men.Are.A.Different.Species.Than.Women.
They do not process/comprehend like women do. Especially a pregnant, hormonal women. Your husband sounds alot like mine. “S” was like a tube light when it came to his mom/family. Even after seeing and hearing something MAJOR with his own eyes and ears, he would be like “Nahin..yai kab huwa tha? Zuroor tumko koi ghalat faymee huwi hai” or “Achaa…mujhe tho kuch yaad nahin…”
It took me ALONG time to finally figure out that no, he’s not being an insensitive jerk. The truth of the matter is that he just wasn’t clinging to and holding on to every injustice his family hurled at me because he knew already knew something that I was not letting myself see: THEY ARE NOT GOING TO CHANGE. NO MATTER IF HE YELLS, SCREAMS, CHASTISES, PLEADS OR EVEN AGREES WITH YOU IN PRIVATE TUMHARA DIL RAHKNAY KE LIYE …HIS FAMILY IS NOT GOING TO GET IT. THERE WILL BE NO AH-HA! MOMENT.
So why get worked up over it, if it is not in anyone power to change??? I GET what you mean when you say “well at least he can acknowledge/admit to me that I have a right to be upset” Girlfriend, that was my mantra also. And all it did was cause more resentment in my heart and mind.
You have a good husband who I’m sure is head over heels madly in love with you. That’s all you need. Baakhi sab gaya bhaar main. Please, please, please meri jaan, just let it go. Don’t let these petty (and yes, they are petty!) things dictate your life.