About my relationship with my fiance.

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Re: About my relationship with my fiance.

@crazyfool

right now im stuck between goddamnimsoawesome and demesne comments.

one: i want him to be the person i met, the person i loved. if he changed, yes there will be effects of it on our personal life not just religiously. ( my own name is one name that shias abuse, and he never objected that.) He wont ever want me to have a kids birthday if its muharram even after the first 10 days?
Last year it was our anniversary around before muharram** but we had exams so we celebrated it after exams**, on 7th muharram no celebration just a dinner.. and this year when it again in the same month, he refused me to keep a status or wish him on his facebook wall.. i asked him why and he said its okay what we do in private but if my brothers see it they wont like it.. Its good to respect but its our day, why should his brothers object our personal affairs? he just said in those ten days he doesnt want to show ppl.. this is a bit odd, like he doesnt want to but afraid of people?

I’ll answer you point for point ok?
This first point - if you can postpone a birthday for exams, then surely you can postpone it because one person feels strongly about something?
As for the brothers, think of it like someone dying in the family (that is how shias view it - only it is about the ruthless execution of the highest family of all, that of our beloved Prophet (saw) ). If someone died in your family around the days of your birthday, would you celebrate your birthday in that month? Or would you postpone any and all celebrations?