Honestly amber, you're the only person who has given me the most logical answer by far. I think she is stringing me along, she contacts me whenever she wants and there is no mention of anything about our future or anything. I've never ran after her, I met her 3 times now. 3rd time was when we were alone. We had a nice conversation and I tried to ask her out again but she never replied in the affirmative. She has given me the option to call and text her but then again she hasn't opened up to me to the point that I can contact her freely. She's keeping her self reserved for no reason...
If the relationship mattered she would never dodge you.
I think the best plan of action is just to talk to your parents about looking at other prospective rishtas. There are plenty of nice girls who will see the person that you are and not be afraid to tell you so. You've given her plenty of chances to pursue this and she's not willing to move forward so it's better to find someone who at least reciprocates those feelings/actions. I'm sorry if I'm being blunt with you but you're a nice guy and you deserve someone who treats you well. She isn't that person.
If the relationship mattered she would never dodge you.
I think the best plan of action is just to talk to your parents about looking at other prospective rishtas. There are plenty of nice girls who will see the person that you are and not be afraid to tell you so. You've given her plenty of chances to pursue this and she's not willing to move forward so it's better to find someone who at least reciprocates those feelings/actions. I'm sorry if I'm being blunt with you but you're a nice guy and you deserve someone who treats you well. She isn't that person.
The thing is that I've tried to tell my parents that she's doing all of this and she's not in to me. But desi parent's mentality is different. They've said "oh why are you trying to text her, just straight up give her a call". To me that's rushing it, you have to first develop a strong base of communication starting from texts and then you move on to calls. I can't just randomly call her. She's not the sort of person who would reciprocate. And on other occasions my parents refuse to accept as they consider it as my defeat, they say a man should always go all the way. Which is utter nonsense. IF the girl doesn't like me I'm not gonna run after her. Also they say that her parents are very nice people and it would be a huge discomfort of telling them that things are not working out.
It's just this vicious circle that the girl has put me in now. She's not hinting at anything, she's not talking freely, she's ignoring me. YET she's not telling me that she's not interested, I think she wants to end things on my end so she looks like all saintly and then can pretend that "Oh I gave him lots of chances but he's the one who didn't want anything to do with me". MAN some girls are so conniving. I don't even know what I should do. I've confronted her and she said she wanted to take things slowly, BUT Come on man even turtles make it to the shore. I dont know..
The thing is that I've tried to tell my parents that she's doing all of this and she's not in to me. But desi parent's mentality is different. They've said "oh why are you trying to text her, just straight up give her a call". To me that's rushing it, you have to first develop a strong base of communication starting from texts and then you move on to calls. I can't just randomly call her. She's not the sort of person who would reciprocate. And on other occasions my parents refuse to accept as they consider it as my defeat, they say a man should always go all the way. Which is utter nonsense. IF the girl doesn't like me I'm not gonna run after her. Also they say that her parents are very nice people and it would be a huge discomfort of telling them that things are not working out.
It's just this vicious circle that the girl has put me in now. She's not hinting at anything, she's not talking freely, she's ignoring me. YET she's not telling me that she's not interested, I think she wants to end things on my end so she looks like all saintly and then can pretend that "Oh I gave him lots of chances but he's the one who didn't want anything to do with me". MAN some girls are so conniving. I don't even know what I should do. I've confronted her and she said she wanted to take things slowly, BUT Come on man even turtles make it to the shore. I dont know..
Next time you talk to your parents - tell them this firmly. That you don't want to pressure this girl into a marriage and you also deserve to find someone who is willing to talk to you and give you some time. Don't let them sway you, be a bit firm and let them know what's going on. Let them know that she avoids talking about marriage and avoids you.
If she wants to play games with you, let her. She won't make it very far anyways - she just wants you to look like the bad guy here but if you tell your parents now about her intentions, at least they are in the loop and it won't be a shocker to them when this rishta doesn't get far. Just ignore her and when she realizes you aren't going to do her dirty work for her - she will have to talk to her parents and end it. I'm just assuming here that her parents like you and want this marriage to happen. This might not even be the case and maybe they are still looking and thats why she isn't making you a commitment.
I would honestly just continue on with my life and let your parents know that this won't pan out because of her lack of interest. If your parents refuse to listen to you then let time take its course. When there's no progress being made and no one is talking marriage, they will eventually figure it out too.
This is the first time you have mentioned that she did not show an interest when you asked to meet again.
While, personally, do not take guys seriously who base all the communication through text messages, I do agree with your parents on that one. But if she has not shown any interest in meeting you either then just get the hint, man. She is not into you. Trust your intuition, accept it and leave. Or if you really like her alot and have doubt that you might be wrong then bring it to the attention of everyone, her family and your family encouraging her to give her opinion about you. Then see what she has to say and decide.