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You're so sick of his........
his... what??? I thought you were asking about a girl?
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I am so sick of his
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You're so sick of his........
his... what??? I thought you were asking about a girl?
Sick of "This". Sorry
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change your ID from "Paa Jee" to "Paajii" [nuTkhaT, sharaartii, mischievous etc]...she may think you are a boring person as your nick suggests...YES, she may be lurking on GS...you never know! :D
j/k :)
Good she needs to know she's a horrible person.
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So if you have a life, you don’t text someone whom your parents have already agreed upon a marriage prospect? You leave the person hanging and never text? Unless you’re a ferakin’ rock star or OBAMA you do not have an excuse to not text someone. That is literally impossible, especially women being on their cell phones 24/7. So my good friend don’t tell me about she “Has a life” I also have a life. I am also a living organism.
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Poor Paajee :(
We live in a society where we expect instant gratification and where the impersonal mediums of communication make us both more careful and careless with whom we are communicating.
If you're having a text conversation with active back and forth, going incommunicado for more than 48 hours does not make sense, unless she has a specific project/commitment that is a competing priority. And even then, if she's going to be AWOL for a known duration, she should let you know in advance.
Quite frankly, her lack of writing back is a clear indication that she's just not that into you. That, or she's playing mind games. Either way - she's not worth it.
Move on young grasshopper!
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LOL give it up bro, youre not the player that you think you are
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A player always has backups I guess.
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She's not that into you.
But you are her backup plan and that's why you're still in the loop.
She doesn't want to piss her parents off and reject you so she's stringing you along.
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O Paaa jeee, when she leaves you hanging at a time when it matters the most once you both are married is when this would be of some concern for ALL of us 
At this time, all I can say is, do her parents know she leaves you ‘hanging’ like that on texts communication? What is it exactly that you tell/ask her, hinting at or talking about when she does that? Did you ask her parents that the ‘hanging’ part not acceptable to you because you’re engaged with her/about to marry her? What’s their take on this? :o
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Do your parents only see her as a marriage prospect or her parents as well? If a mutual understanding took place between both sets of parents and including the girl, that's troubling. However, if it's only your folks that feel she's a marriage prospect...then "prospect" isn't that significant. If you feel that there's no excuse for her behavior, then move on. I think it's more hurtful when you had strong mutual communication and then suddenly they disappear, but if she's been like this from the get go you can opt to move on quietly or talk to her about it. If you do the latter and you still see no change in her behavior the respect yourself and move on.
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I think her dad knows about the whole her being busy and he hasn’t really said anything other than the fact that her daughter is actually an extermely busy individual. Ok I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt that she’s busy/ taking 20 classes at one day and working full time. But It’s not like that she has to go to a phone booth and dial the number this isn’t 1982 she has a working phone, all she has to do is pick it up and reply to my texts to show some sort of interest. It’s been 7 days since the last i’ve heard from her. I am adament now that I’m not gonna text on my own, if she doesn’t want to talk then that’s completely fine.
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Do your parents only see her as a marriage prospect or her parents as well? If a mutual understanding took place between both sets of parents and including the girl, that's troubling. However, if it's only your folks that feel she's a marriage prospect...then "prospect" isn't that significant. If you feel that there's no excuse for her behavior, then move on. I think it's more hurtful when you had strong mutual communication and then suddenly they disappear, but if she's been like this from the get go you can opt to move on quietly or talk to her about it. If you do the latter and you still see no change in her behavior the respect yourself and move on.
Ofcourse my parens see her as a marriage prospect, we did the whole chai trolly thing, then met on our own but I just can't seem to read her. She doesn't show any interest, then the long pause between texts, if you're a woman which i'm assuming you are. Would you not text your would be husband for weeks? And when you do text him it'll be only for a few seconds? What does that tell me about the interest? Both her parents and my parents see her as a marriage prospect. She's always been like this, ever since I got her number to talk to her she hasn't opened up at all. It was the same, she'll send a few texts then dissapear and I would be the first person to text asking how she is etc, her response would always be @i'm sorry I was busy etc etc...@ I mean if she doesn't want anything from me, why not just tell her parents she's not interested. I don't know...
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Ofcourse my parens see her as a marriage prospect, we did the whole chai trolly thing, then met on our own but I just can't seem to read her. She doesn't show any interest, then the long pause between texts, if you're a woman which i'm assuming you are. Would you not text your would be husband for weeks? And when you do text him it'll be only for a few seconds? What does that tell me about the interest? Both her parents and my parents see her as a marriage prospect. She's always been like this, ever since I got her number to talk to her she hasn't opened up at all. It was the same, she'll send a few texts then dissapear and I would be the first person to text asking how she is etc, her response would always be @i'm sorry I was busy etc etc...@ I mean if she doesn't want anything from me, why not just tell her parents she's not interested. I don't know...
Try reversing the situation. When you and the rest of the male species are no longer interested, but don't have the courage to be forthright....what do you guys do? You either do a "fade-out" or you act in such a repulsive way that it compels her to be the dumper. Some of you might be honest, buy we're not talking about that lot....we're talking about the likely behaviors of the ones who don't reciprocate interest and also lack the courage to say so.
Generally, a girl who seriously considers you a marriage prospect would make an active effort in getting to know the guy. But to be honest, some girls face a lot of pressure from their parents. What this means is that their parents are not very accepting of their reasons for rejection. And I have seen this. For instance, if she's not attracted to him...for whatever reason....she may fear telling them because she knows they will dismiss her reasons and get angry and then tell her how she ain't gettin' younger etc etc etc....and creates tension in the home. You were wondering why she couldn't just tell her parents if she's not interested and this can be a plausible explanation.
If your own gut instincts are telling you she isn't into you, then you have 2 options. Accept your instincts and move on. One potential advantage of this is that she may contact you and if she doesn't, then it'll only further confirm your suspicions... but by then you hopefully won't be so offended as you had already started moving on by no longer contacting her. The 2nd option is that you confront her. Whichever path you go, you'll be taking control and that is better than playing a tortuous mental guessing game.
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Oh dear, looks like you took my last post a bit seriously whereas it was complete joke. I did not mean that you should actually go and complain to her father about this. That's quite silly. If I was taking 20 classes a day and working full time, I would like to catch up on my sleep for the remaining time I would be left with as sleep is very important to girls while the guys have no problem running around like a zombie.
On a serious note, if your intention is to get to know her, instead of texting like kids in school, you should set up a monthly meet up for lunch, coffee, dinner, whatever you both are comfortable with. I dont think it is a good idea to insist her on texting you back if that is not her way of communication. You on the other hand sound very immature. Phone/SMS/Email/Skype/Viber communication is mostly damaging to new relationships. Just like now, most probably she does not mean all that your mind is telling you. Are you both not in the same city that you have to rely on SMS communication? Go meet her man!
And if you guys are engaged to be married soon, then most probably she is avoiding too much talk as it is considered inappropriate in some families if very short time is left to marriage.
I think her dad knows about the whole her being busy and he hasn't really said anything other than the fact that her daughter is actually an extermely busy individual. Ok I'll give her the benefit of the doubt that she's busy/ taking 20 classes at one day and working full time. But It's not like that she has to go to a phone booth and dial the number this isn't 1982 she has a working phone, all she has to do is pick it up and reply to my texts to show some sort of interest. It's been 7 days since the last i've heard from her. I am adament now that I'm not gonna text on my own, if she doesn't want to talk then that's completely fine.
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You have highlighted some valid points but still, why can't she communicate her feelings to him? Tell him she doesnt feel comfortable communicating like this? Or that she had prefer to keep it low? Thru other means? Etc etc. Keeping quiet is not going to help it.
In my opinion, she is not interested. If she was, she'd make time atleast to discuss her reservations regarding mode of communication or extent of it or whatever could be bothering her.
Oh dear, looks like you took my last post a bit seriously whereas it was complete joke. I did not mean that you should actually go and complain to her father about this. That's quite silly. If I was taking 20 classes a day and working full time, I would like to catch up on my sleep for the remaining time I would be left with as sleep is very important to girls while the guys have no problem running around like a zombie.
On a serious note, if your intention is to get to know her, instead of texting like kids in school, you should set up a monthly meet up for lunch, coffee, dinner, whatever you both are comfortable with. I dont think it is a good idea to insist her on texting you back if that is not her way of communication. You on the other hand sound very immature. Phone/SMS/Email/Skype/Viber communication is mostly damaging to new relationships. Just like now, most probably she does not mean all that your mind is telling you. Are you both not in the same city that you have to rely on SMS communication? Go meet her man!
And if you guys are engaged to be married soon, then most probably she is avoiding too much talk as it is considered inappropriate in some families if very short time is left to marriage.
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Im in a different frame of mind today so cant write long. But only one thing that if they both are engaged to be married, this is quite a silly issue to stress over. Yes, it would be worrisome if she would refuse to meet him despite being available/not being busy with work/studies.
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No one is that busy honestly. If she's playing games with you - then it's very immature and maybe she's not ready to get married.
And if she is stringing you along and not really 100% into this marriage then keep your options open as well.
The truth of the matter is, no matter how busy she might be - people make time for those that matter in their lives.
No excuses. Let her text you now, stop initiating it and running after her.
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^ you answered it for me!
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No one is that busy honestly. If she's playing games with you - then it's very immature and maybe she's not ready to get married.
And if she is stringing you along and not really 100% into this marriage then keep your options open as well. The truth of the matter is, no matter how busy she might be - people make time for those that matter in their lives. No excuses. Let her text you now, stop initiating it and running after her.
Honestly amber, you're the only person who has given me the most logical answer by far. I think she is stringing me along, she contacts me whenever she wants and there is no mention of anything about our future or anything. I've never ran after her, I met her 3 times now. 3rd time was when we were alone. We had a nice conversation and I tried to ask her out again but she never replied in the affirmative. She has given me the option to call and text her but then again she hasn't opened up to me to the point that I can contact her freely. She's keeping her self reserved for no reason...
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Honestly amber, you're the only person who has given me the most logical answer by far. I think she is stringing me along, she contacts me whenever she wants and there is no mention of anything about our future or anything. I've never ran after her, I met her 3 times now. 3rd time was when we were alone. We had a nice conversation and I tried to ask her out again but she never replied in the affirmative. She has given me the option to call and text her but then again she hasn't opened up to me to the point that I can contact her freely. She's keeping her self reserved for no reason...
Dump her OP.