I was reading a book about abortion and I came across an interesting statistically proven fact, that men are more Pro-Abortion than Women . I was always under the impression that men are more pro-life .
I wasn’t satisfied so I asked my apartment-mates that if their gf gets pregnant unplanned then will they take abortion as an option ? and they said Yes . When I asked about the wife then one of said Yes and the other one said No .
I think I am still confused that why men are more pro-abortion than women . Is it just running away from responsibility or something deeper that I can’t figure out .
You answered it yourself. Runny away from responsibility & I hardly doubt a man is aware of the physical & emotional pain an abortion causes to a woman.
Often times many girls or women who don't plan on having a baby still stick to it because they start sharing the baby bond as soon as they realize there is a baby. Where as for a guy the affection part mostly hits when the baby comes into this world.
Being a pro-abortion man and forcing abortion are two different things. Running away from responsibility can be a reason for forcing abortions, but it does not mean that all pro-abortion men support abortion because they want to run away from responsibility.
As Bint-e-NAeem said that women start sharing a bond with baby as soon as they realise that there is a baby, whereas for a guy affection part hits when baby comes into this world.
Since in early pregnancy there is a no strong emotional bond between and baby and man, in comparison to baby & woman's bond, it is much easier for man to make a choice under the circumstances.
You answered it yourself. Runny away from responsibility & I hardly doubt a man is aware of the physical & emotional pain an abortion causes to a woman.
Often times many girls or women who don't plan on having a baby still stick to it because they start sharing the baby bond as soon as they realize there is a baby. Where as for a guy the affection part mostly hits when the baby comes into this world.
I don't know if its only me, but most of the time I heard or witness someone going through abortion, it is usually the man who needs the baby and woman doesn't . I think it also depends a lot on the bond that a man shares with a woman . If it was a one night stand then it might be a different case but otherwise I always find men willing to keep the baby and share the responsibility .
NaMaan Situation konsi hai????
Ab meri Urdu ko ijazat do tu arz keron ke aap najaiz taluqat se honey waley bachey ki baat ker rahy hain ya shadi ke baad????
Muhtrami o Mukarami Girl ya Boy friend ki sex chahey kuch bhi hu atleast hamarey han najaiz hi samjhi jati hai os bachey ko bhi yehi kehty hain.
Ye swal itna sada aur jwab bhi asan nahi (need to understand)
OK Pakistani admi ju shadi shuda hain on se pocha ye swal?????
Mera nahi khiyal ke tum ne aisa kiya Pakistani & Indian merdon ki ye sarisht hai ke woh aur on ke khandan samjhty hain bacha aurat ko bandhta hai ghalti bivi ki bhi hoti hai ju samjhti hai jitney bachey hon gey tu shohar aur susrali qadar kerin gey ye nahi dykhti ke agar aisa waqt aiya ke donon ka ikhta rehna namumkin howa tu ye bachey merd ki nahi aurat ke pair ki zanjeer banain gey.
Ab agar tum majmoi tor per puri duniya ya American muashrey ki baat ker rahy hu:D Tu mian yahan unhon ne najaiz bachon aur on ki maon ko mashriq ki trha jaiaz bachon se ziada haq diya howa hai.
Merd log kutty bilion yani janwaron ki trha jinsi taluqaat tu chahtyhi hai ab pehly yahan tha jis trha galli main kutta aur kutiya mily sex ki bachey rah chalty daikh ker hansey aur at the end kutiya ke pait main os ki nishani aa gai ab kutta bhag liya bas if you pay attention to animals yes only mother takes care her children. So isi trha agar zzimadari merd per na hu woh parwa bhi na kery magar yahan 18 golden years ki kamai woh aurat kha jaey gi after all kutty, billian kutty bilan hain insan insan hai
Jahan koi qanoon hu ga wahan aisa hu ga. Ab Muslim merdon ko aur nafsiyat bhi hai woh najaiz taluqat ko tu charom imamon main se mkisi aik ka fatwa la ker sahih sabit ker dain gey(Hamrey han fiqa ke nam pr ju khail kheyla giya hai na kiya bataon NAJAIZ ka sirf nam na jaiz rehny diya hai on ki maon ko ju bap ka naam bhi na bata sakin bari izat aur protection di gai hai) Bas aam aurat samjh nahi saki os khail ko.
OK han tu main keh rahi thi agar Muslim merd hai tu kion man akery ga even osey kharcha paani na bhi dena parey najaiz bachey ka on ka masla hota hai oh meri byti bhi yehi kam kery gi??? Agar byti hu gai tu magar itney ghyrat walon ko shai dpatta bhi na chalta hu ke kis se kiya shaid woh behan hi hu bap ki traf se:D
Ye mera daikhney ka andaz hy is masley ko main muzo se nahi hati bas yeh sochna mera andaz-e-fikar thora alag hy shaid baqi logon se.(prespactive kehty hain is ko kiya??)
Main street matters aur family matters ko alag samjhti hon aur unhin alag alag treat kerny per zor daiti hon so mera khiyal hai BF/GF sex se honey waley najaiz bachon ko abort zaror kerwaney ka kehty han merd magar shadi ke baad jaiz bachon ko apni mardangi ki nishani samjhty hoey aisa kam buhat kam merd kerty hain:) (Is smily ka naam x2 rakh do)
I mean shadi sirf woh log kerty hain ju waqai family raise kerna ya ghar banana chahty hain aur jab bat family ki hu tu bachey tu zaroor ain gey os ke bagheyr family mukamal nahi samjhi jati( Yahan aur nafsiyati o musharti masail a jatey hain)
khair magar jahan main keh rahi hun janwaron ki trha ya gali ke taluqaat wahan free rehna her aik ko bhata hai na family na family ke dabao aur zimadarian tu yahan aksar ghalti se unplanned auladin hi hoti hain jin per ziada tar bap hi agree nahi hoty ke is duniya main ain unhin apni merdangi per koi shak nahi hota ke ji bacha paida hona zarori hai ye sabit kerny ko;)
You answered it yourself. Runny away from responsibility
responsibility does not start after she gets pregnant. It starts before the act of physical interaction happens between both parties and as long as it was not a rape, both parties are equally responsible for everything that happens during and after the sex. In fact I think that girl is more responsible as she should be more careful about getting involved in such acts as she is the one who has to live with the consequences for the rest of her life.
I was reading a book about abortion and I came across an interesting statistically proven fact, that men are more Pro-Abortion than Women . I was always under the impression that men are more pro-life .
I wasn't satisfied so I asked my apartment-mates that if their gf gets pregnant unplanned then will they take abortion as an option ? and they said Yes . When I asked about the wife then one of said Yes and the other one said No .
I think I am still confused that why men are more pro-abortion than women . Is it just running away from responsibility or something deeper that I can't figure out .
Depends on a person's ethics and values completely regardless of his/her sex.
What the freak. Some of these answers. Well once answer is just woah.
First of people comparing human beings to "kuttay Billian" just because they sleep together before marriage is being Jaahil & Bushre Jee bohut misconceptions hain aap ko to. Saaray mard aisay nahi hotay jaisa aap nay kaha hai. Aur nahi saray baaher rehnay walay bard aisay hain jaisa aap samajhti hain. Even gora people have moral values & many consider premarital sex as wrong as some of us Desis do.
That would have been my guess too.
I still can differentiate if you are male or a female. No disrespect meant.
Yeh kuttay billi ki Tarah jagag jagah najaiz jinsi talluqat rekhnay walay topic per smiley ko mera naam kiyun Diya ja raha hay?
Oh oops sorry silly question. Carry on carry on.
Lol. The first thing I thought when I read that was where did X2 come from.
NaMaan, I kinda understand where you're coming from, because I know that my husband would be opposed to an abortion as much as I would. I guess there are all types of folks.
responsibility does not start after she gets pregnant. It starts before the act of physical interaction happens between both parties and as long as it was not a rape, both parties are equally responsible for everything that happens during and after the sex. In fact I think that girl is more responsible as she should be more careful about getting involved in such acts as she is the one who has to live with the consequences for the rest of her life.
That's a little I don't know. I totally understand what you are saying about being all responsible before getting into the act. Remember we discussed this before in another thread & I wrote about how sometimes its pure luck.
What is responsibility in such case anyways. Doing it & knowing you are protecting yourself (again comes the luck part) or doing it after getting married (many couples have unplanned pregnancies & abort) or doing it knowing if something happens its a result of something both parties did & will own up to it.
Again comes another fact. No one really thinks about unplanned pregnancies unless until it really happens. Be it married people or boyfriends/girlfriends.
My experience in this case has been neutral. Talking about two desi couples who did Nikkah behind their parents' back. Just because they didn't wanna get "gunnah"
Both girls conceived. In both cases, the girls wanted to keep the baby.One guy wanted & got it aborted, where as the other guy owned up to it, talked to the girl's parents (yeah they were very upset), decided upon a wedding date. Later on claimed the baby was a preemie.
It depends on the individual as well. I have seen more men including desis & non desis being okay with an abortion than most women.
NaMaan, I kinda understand where you're coming from, because I know that my husband would be opposed to an abortion as much as I would. I guess there are all types of folks.
Exactly, but when it comes to Percentage of Respondents Who Believe Abortion Should be Available the male to female ratio is 91 to 89 . It clearly shows that men are more pro-choice/abortion . This is something confusing me .
Yes, I guess it's perhaps because it is easier for a man to say since he doesn't have to go through the physical challenges of an abortion in addition to the emotional ones. But yes, the men I know would have a hard time with it.
Exactly, but when it comes to Percentage of Respondents Who Believe Abortion Should be Available the male to female ratio is 91 to 89 . It clearly shows that men are more pro-choice/abortion . This is something confusing me .
Its becuase women tend to be more conservative in the areas of family and religion. Its according to westren statistics.
BTW NaMaan you might wanna correct your terms as pro abortion and pro choice are not synonyms. Pro choice ppl recognize and respect women's right of choice. They demand that there should not be any laws aginst abortion and women should be able to choose between keeping the pregnancy and aborting it.
I think it's the emotional factor that plays a role. It's most probably more difficult for the woman, because after all she's carrying the child inside. In most cases a bonding with that 'child' inside of her starts right away.
Its becuase women tend to be more conservative in the areas of family and religion. Its according to westren statistics.
BTW NaMaan you might wanna correct your terms as pro abortion and pro choice are not synonyms. Pro choice ppl recognize and respect women's right of choice. They demand that there should not be any laws aginst abortion and women should be able to choose between keeping the pregnancy and aborting it.
Pro-abortion/choice = People who think abortion is right and it should be by choice of the mother
Pro-life = People who think that baby shouldn't be aborted and it should be given a chance to live
Btw I agree with you that abortion is a taboo, like gay marriage, and it will take sometime for the people to finally adopt it. And yes these are American statistics.
I think it's the emotional factor that plays a role. It's most probably more difficult for the woman, because after all she's carrying the child inside. In most cases a bonding with that 'child' inside of her starts right away.
But men are emotional too . Don't you think so . Means on one hand they can divorce just because their wife cannot have a baby and on the other hand they think its ok to abort a baby . Contradictory isn't it ?