Re: Abort mission Abort mission!
As far as this goes, the situation stands thus:
She is going ahead with the pregnancy. The guy is due back in mid december and she has told him very precisely that this is what she is doing, and that he should support her in it. They are working things out through.
She was mashallah pretty adamant about her views. She was already having qualms about this marriage and she laid it out on him, that if he asks her to abort then this is over for them. And she came clean with her mom about the pregnancy, but given that the marriage is around the corner, ie January, that isn’t much of an issue.
Let’s see
This is the first time I’m posting on this forum. I’ve been a silent reader for quite a while now. But what I am reading right now is shocking. I am not a Pakistani but I am a Muslim dating a Pakistani man. The answers here are quite shocking that I feel compelled to post a response.
First of all, how can you people tell this woman to abort her baby like this? Through a forum nevertheless! And people are being so judgemental.
To the woman in question, if you are reading this, know that the decision is yours and yours alone. It’s your body and your baby. Do what you think is best for you. If you are really going to keep the baby, I think that is a great decision. My mother once told me that you can never know the fate of that child. You never know the blessings the child can bring. That really made me rethink of my view on abortion. Plus there are so many stories I have read where people who were abandoned or thrown away or was nearly killed by their own parents turn to become very successful people.
What is also disturbing is the fact that this guy does not even want to be there for his partner during the abortion. I am truly sorry to say this but he is being a major dou***bag. Having an abortion is not only painful and traumatizing but also life threatening to the mother. Seriously I am so mad at this guy. It isn’t as fun as the process of putting the baby in there now is it?
However, it is also understandable how a man can feel this way. There is a saying that a woman becomes a mother once she found out that she is pregnant. A man becomes a father once he sees his child. So maybe there is hope that he might want this child when the child is born.
After all that is said and done here, I don’t advice this woman to take what is written in a forum seriously. This is literally a matter of life and death. She should really consult with a professional or family member. It is really a bad situation to be in if one has to go through it alone.