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^^ dope if a guy/gurl/or their family cant afford...say it!!! if the other partner doesnt understand (just like a case for jahez) then are they really worth it?
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I know you look at me as your role model and pay close attention to everything I say but this odd theory of mine is just based on personal experiences and it may not be true, as a matter of fact it is certainly not true for all cases. So it is quite possible that you want to have a huge wedding and still be good in bed. Relax.
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Dope, 20,000 is nothign for a wedding.
In high school i had this project for my Christian Womanhood class, we had to plan our entire wedding and stuff. I did a typical desi wedding, three-four days, it came out to around 20,000 not sure of the exact amt… other girls who had typical one-day wedding/reception had 100,000+++ I’m guessing desi weddings wud cost more, as there’s more days (if you want the traditional mehndi/barat/valima etc)…
Wasting money for a one day thing bugs you, that’s understandable, i think some girls take it too far as well (just watch any episode of Bridezilla) but damnit stop thinking it’s coz those of us raised here are selfish and money hungry 
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oh haan my mom used to say this and i never quite understood it till recently...if u have a very extravagant wedding...keep the less fortunate members of your family in mind. when they marry off their daughters it becomes a cause of shame for them to not be able to spend that much for their daughters too. jealousy really is a root to many problems within families......
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shweets.. That really sucks if he got stuck with the whole bill.. and u cant even sue the other party now..
anyways, yes if the dulhan/dulha can afford a big wedding, no harm in throwing a grand event, but if they can't make do with what u have instead of paying for it the rest of ur life.. plus i think its better to have a wedding at a smaller scale and then u can put more money towards the honeymoon..
and dope u shouldn't just limit this to the abcd women.. u'd be surprised how many nakhrealoo women back home have their weddings...
weddings are a celebration of a new beginning.. why the hell would u wanna start a new life buried upto ur neck in debt..
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:nono:
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Uhmmmm okay watever, you came up wiht a stupid theory that you can’t even prove other than with a pitiful excuse of “personal experiences” and I was just curious as to how you came up wiht it, now quit telling me to relax and insulting my level/quality of education coz u can’t say something worthwhile 
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I would like to hear from any man on GS who wants a big wedding for himself. This is news to me.
Yes, for the reception part, I would love to spend the money to feed the poor in pakistan. That way, the duaa i will get will be enough to let me live a prosperous marriied life. This, however, is not boding very well with them, since, if their relatives are not invited to the reception, then they feel that hey are not getting their money’s worth for the gifts registered at Macy’s. I dont care two sihts about the gifts, but i am uncannily aware that the girl somehow does.
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I want a small yet elegant wedding. Ideally, less than 100 people.
Khair, Dope, if you dislike "ABCD" girls so much, why not do what the vast majority of "ABCD" men do? Go back to Pakistan and fetch yourself a nice wifey.
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Exactly, all over the world people probably spend a much larger portion of their income on this stuff. I go to Pak and feel the tug on my wallet, even when converting to dollars. How can people who live there afford it?
Dope – You have very noble and honorable priorities. It is great that you would wish to spend the money on helping others, rather than yourself. However, you should not totally dismiss someone as being superficial, simply because they want a big wedding. Within reason, I think it is understandable and there can be many reasons for it.
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Shweets, I totally agree with you; they are not worth it. But what makes it a threadworthy topic, IMO, is that the practice has become more of a rule than an exception. I am noticing a widespread trend which is slowly becoming-- or has already become-- a norm.
I am alarmed because i have yet to find a girl in the greater tri-state area whose family thinks like the way I do.
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Just curious, where are you finding these girls?
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^through family friends, relatives, dad's colleagues and aunties spread far and wide.
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Thank goodness I'm not an American lass innit! :D
No one will think the way you do in every single situation and definately not when it comes to a wedding. Some weddings are meant for the bride and groom, some for the family, thats just the way it is. Learn to compromise or better yet, start thinking big yourself. Something about "joining them if you can't beat them" ??
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So find girls on your own. There are girls who don't want big weddings.
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It also depends on how you say that you don't want a big wedding. If you call the very idea wasteful and dismiss it, some parents and girls will feel you are cheap and that you don't value the wedding/marriage/wife. If you seem judgemental and dismissive, they won't be willing to compromise.
Your decision of whom to marry should not be decided based upon who wants a big wedding and who wants a small one. Marriage is about compromise, and this may be the first one both of you will have to make, if you really want to commit to each other. Find the right person, commit to her, and then figure out what that day will be like.
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gernalisations... as always... :)
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Wussie. 
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You are damn right i am wuss. I refuse to skullbang the divorced flirtacious spic chick who lives next door because i am petrified of what God will do to me. But then you wouldnt know anything about it, would ya?:p
It does make me a wuss.
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Just like an ABCD, CBCD or EBCD does! Nothing wrong though, but what’s the difference between buying a chicken or selecting a Hubby in Pak?
c’mon galz wake up, amount of money ppl spending on weddings is awful. i have seen only one wedding so far, where groom and bride agreed to have nikkah done in masjid followed by a valima! WoW