ABCD women are selfish and self-centered

[kiara]

Re: ABCD women are selfish and self-centered

@KashmiriRainDrops

Unfortunately for u, this cud just be bad luck…not all “ABCD” women r like this…some women r and some r not…nothing to do with wot race u r or where u were brought up…i wud, like u said, prefer to feed poor ppl rather than have a lavish wedding…however, in our culture it’s really not just “my” wedding is it…now, some "ABCD"s do go crazy with their wedding just like some non-desis…my guy cousin got married recently (and if there was ever an ABCD, he is one), he is totally “white-washed”…has no sense of culture/religion wotsoever…anyway, the guy is a bloody millionaire at the least…so to him, it was no big deal to have this grand wedding…it was absolutely breath-taking…now tradtionally speaking, the girls family is supposed to take care of the barat day correct? But this cousin of mine, had his wedding arranged like christians do…and (to me) went overboard…it was HUGE and he actually paid for it (even though the girls side took credit for it)…we were so cross at them actually, cos we cud tell they were complete golddiggers and r just gonna use the hell out of my cousin…anyway, my point is that he (being a GUY) loved the whole idea of splurging for his wedding day…he went all-out and was really happy with it…another person in our family, when her daughter got married spent quite a bit…my mum actually asked her, y did u spend so much!..and that, it wud have been better if u had bought the new couple a car (since they were later using NYC transportation), or a small appt or even given them more money as a gift to help pay for Uni…she (the auntie) just sighed and said yes, but mujhe shawk hai…she was just really into the whole wedding designing n all that…n the daughter who was getting married cudn’t have cared less! Also, in Pakistan there are ppl who go mad spending on weddings too…and with mine, i have a feeling my mum wants to make it special since i am her only daughter…but she definately doesn’t believing in over doing it, but she still wants it to be decent and nice…and u know wot, i’m gonna let her even though i’m a simple person and wud prefer a small wedding…and my fiance, OMG he wants to throw a huge valima..that’s just his personality he’s very outgoing and knows a LOT of ppl…it doesn’t have to be super extravagant, but he will get a big place just so he can accomodate all the ppl he wants there…so basically, IMO, it can be a guy or a girl, desi or non-desi…if they want to spend money on their wedding they will, it depends on their preference…good luck with ur rishtaa hunting

yaar koi yeh to batao k ABCD girls kya cheez hai?