We’ve discussed this before, but let’s hash this out again. When talking to the following people/relationships, do you use aap or tum:
- Friend/cousin older than you (and how much older) **aap if male and 2 or more years older. aap if female and 5 or more years older
2. Friend/cousin younger than you tum
**3. Spouse ** alternates between aap or tum depending on mood
4. Child/niece/nephew ** aap