Aap versus tum...

Lifestyle Relationships
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We’ve discussed this before, but let’s hash this out again. When talking to the following people/relationships, do you use aap or tum:

  1. Friend/cousin older than you (and how much older)
  2. Friend/cousin younger than you
  3. Spouse
  4. Child/niece/nephew
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Re: Aap versus tum...

I call every Aunty aap or that bhudi.

  1. Name
  2. Name
  3. Woman - as in Where is my sammich woman
  4. Oie shorty
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Re: Aap versus tum...

  1. aap
  2. tum
  3. depends on the mood :D
  4. tum
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Re: Aap versus tum…

aap buhat hi badtameez kisam kay insaan hain. :omg:

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The woman part is actually true. I say that to my female friends. A stern "Woman" to let them know things their place.

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I always say aap, regardless of age/relationship. I don't thnik I can remember the last time I used the word tum.

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My parents, and mom especially, raised me to say "aap" to everyone....didn't matter if they were older, younger, adult, child, peer. And then sometime down the road...I messed up that habit and started using "tum" more often. Then I remember what my mom said, so I go back and forth between the two, lol. In general let's see...

1) Younger friend/cousin...usually tum. But sometimes I'll revert to aap if they're using it.
2) Child/neice/nephew...usually tum
3) Older friend/cousin.....if they're older by more than a couple of years, it's aap.

4) Spouse....don't have one. I guess i'll just snap my fingers at him .."Hey you...yeah you." It's classy.

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To Gals younger than me i Say Tum

To Gal elder than me Aap

And Aap to my cousins as well

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ap n tum 2 those wth whom i m v frank
tum
aap
aap
:)

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i say aap to everyone :hinna:

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With starngers I start with aap , if they make me slightly mad I use tum , then when they make me extremely mad too and the last is a gali.

Same goes with friends aap when we are just acquaintances, tum when we bond a little , too when we bond a little more and a gali is for langotia yaar.

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Re: Aap versus tum...

aap to all elders and people i don't know very well,
tum/app to youngsters
tu to extremely close friends and siblings
hubby - tum

i personally love 'tu', it's under rated and seen as rude whereas really if it's used between close people it makes you feel so informal and comfortable...

"Pyar jab Hadd se barha saare Taqaloof mith gayey,
Aaap se ..phir tum huay , phir tu ka Khunwaan hogayey!"
Mehdi hassan

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“tu” is used only in bolly songs or in desi fights. :cb:

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hahaha @ hareem
but yeah indians use tu way more in hindi than pakistani people do...
as do karachi people...as opposed to say people from islamabad..

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:lajawab:

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Re: Aap versus tum...

  1. Friend/cousin older than you (and how much older)
  • friends is usually Tum, dont have friends that are much older than me so cant say.
  1. Friend/cousin younger than you
  • tum
  1. Spouse
  • dont have one
  1. Child/niece/nephew
  • tum

I think the only time i say aap, is if they are older than me in age, or also when they are strangers or i cant be 'free' with. then its Aap no matter what the age is.
I've seen parents saying aap to their kids, i think its very sweet and will def. do so with my own kids in future i'A
would find it slightly weird to say aap when im angry though lol. not used to it i guess.

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Re: Aap versus tum...

  1. Friend/cousin older than you (if older than me then Aap, else Tum )
  2. Friend/cousin younger than you Tum
  3. Spouse
  4. Child/niece/nephew Tum/App depends on mood
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I never really thought of it....since I speak mostly english with my cousins here, but in Pak, I guess for all of them I say tum. aap for the elders.

I never understood why that's such a "bad" word.....

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Re: Aap versus tum…

with strangers it’s always aap initially
am used to calling hubby aap. And there are times am a little mad at him and I say 'yaar uff kya museebat hai **aap *ko’ :hehe:
for friends (guys or girls) it’s tum *
for younger kids and cousins/nephew nieces it’s mostly aap. We have a very strict rule at our place to always talk to little kids using ‘aap’ as that helps them to start saying the same to everybody in general even their own age-mates.

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yaar aap kay rules tou buhat strict hain, tsk, kya museebat hai! :hehe: