khoobsorat hey . humain aap ki family bhut pasand aaye .
aap kay saray bachay bhut achay maloom hotay hain
lekin .. abb jo Allah ki marzi 
the never-to-be-future-mother-in-law said this after having her stomach full only
if all had to be allah ki marzi why did she go to some-one’s house after insisting so much
if they can play smart some day someone will play more smart and will bang their heads:naraz:
feel free to abuse her and women of her category
and i would feel better 
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Ullo kai kee! Bewaqoof! Paagal auntie jee...
Ur not mad @ me for swearing now r u? :D
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awww iraj dont worry maybe you will get someone better.
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good riddance to her...U got saved BIG TIME....
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I swear that women like her just want to do the rounds of people's houses to be nosey and to brag about themselves!
People like this woman should be locked up!
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don't worry girl... i'm sure you can do much better than go into a home where the mom is so stuckup and scornful of others... besides, Allah knows best and you may not see any faults in this rishta, but im sure He has something much better planned for you. Patience is a virtue :)
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don't worry girl... i'm sure you can do much better than go into a home where the mom is so stuckup and scornful of others... besides, Allah knows best and you may not see any faults in this rishta, but im sure He has something much better planned for you. Patience is a virtue :)
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hmmm where did she brag about herself and her family? according to the little info we have she praised the girl's family and concluded the meeting on a non-committal note.. Perfectly understandable for families who want to keep their options open and arrive at decisions after a lot of collective input from various decision makers in the process.. including but not limited to the guy himself!!
all it means is that it's neither a haaN or a Naa and OP's family is free to seek more rishtas..
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all it means is that it's neither a haaN or a Naa and OP's family is free to seek more rishtas..
In my experience and maybe opinion, these mums pressure the marriage fixers to get them an "appointment" with so and so to go see their daughter and then they sit there asking questions, finding out family history etc etc, dropping a few things in about her status etc and then at the end they say "Allah ki marzee" or "We'll let you know".....
Yes, I know the decision can't always be made there and then, but hey, what's the harm in just wishing each other well and leaving.......the answer in my experience usually goes through the marriage fixer anyway..................
I know there will always be a "3rd person" the person who makes rishteh their job, and they will get sawab for it, but the mum's who pester for a meeting and then say, oh we didn't want a girl who was educated/working/from Pakistan/that age......DUH you find all that out BEFORE you go to the meeting!
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what you got rejected?aww
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You don't have to be rejected to have experience/opinions!!
No - FYI I wasn't rejected - and no I am not boasting about that......
I have seen it so many times, in my family and friends.....or maybe it's an Indian thing??
I said yes to marrying my hubby there and then - it was a different set up as his sister is married to my cousin so it was kind of family thing.............Allah SWT just gave me that feeling in my heart that he was the one for me....and as every woman always is I WAS RIGHT!
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wannabe_a_mum nay farmaya
*In my experience and maybe opinion, these mums pressure the marriage fixers to get them an "appointment" with so and so to go see their daughter and then they sit there asking questions, finding out family history etc etc, dropping a few things in about her status etc *
they have to ask questions, think of it as an interview, has the interviewer not seen your resume? but what is said or written down needs to be verified, and an interactive discussion rather leads to other points, you can go in different directions in your discussion to be sure. Its due diligence and nothing wrong with that.
The chai parade is the way many rishtas take place, I am not a fan of the practice, but if it happens, why should questions not be asked,
and then at the end they say "Allah ki marzee" or "We'll let you know".....
Yes, I know the decision can't always be made there and then, but hey, what's the harm in just wishing each other well and leaving.......the answer in my experience usually goes through the marriage fixer anyway..................
and what is 'wishing well' in your view. You do not want to get anyone's hopes high or give them a false reading. In many cases the decision does not rest with the mother anyways, she may go and give her report to her son and he may say no for whatever reasons, no matter how much the mother likes the girl and the family.
I really dont see in this case what the lady could have done, she gave compliments to teh girl, to the family, and left while leaving the door open
**I know there will always be a "3rd person" the person who makes rishteh their job, and they will get sawab for it, but the mum's who pester for a meeting and then say, oh we didn't want a girl who was educated/working/from Pakistan/that age......DUH you find all that out BEFORE you go to the meeting!
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yeh, its an excuse then, we did not want someone who wants to have a career or what nots. Its a white lie and obviously each side knows it is an excuse. The real reasons may not be pallatable. How would one like if the lady said no on the spot or something like
1) girls picture was older, she has gained 40 pounds since then
2) we were not told the correct information about the family and they just will not fit in they are too burger/westernized/backwards/cheap/
3) The mother seemed like a nag who would interfere in her dauhter's life and that is something our son is not going to like.
hey I am all for honesty, but I guess in these cases letting ppl off the hook and not saying something to hurt them is a nice thing.
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I think there's going to be a difference if it's just the parents who visit the girl and if the son comes along too..................
I see where you are coming from, with regards to cross refrencing and understand what you mean about the "interviewer", but if you were advertising for a Doctor and the CV said that the person who applied was a school leaver, who worked 9-5 stacking shelves, would you still invite them for an interview? (Okay, maybe weird/inapprpriate analogy)
Just want to say, I don't mean to offend/belittle anyone here
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girls and their families reject so many proposals too after meeting the guy and/or his family.... then why blame only guys moms only?
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there was no rishta fixer. they guy already knew me .
his mother somehow got the number and asked again and again to come over ..
i never wanted them to come over as i did not like the guy .
she came and told me that she wouldn’t let her son marry me .. even if i were pretty 
it was a sheer torture … . i never asked her to come over
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i think its always a good idea to let the the guy and girl involved sort this out.i mean after all they are the ones who have to make the final decision.let them talk on phone or whatever and work it out rather getting so many people involved who often give more importance to their own personal agendas than the people they are trying to get hooked up.it always goes wrong when the girl and guy are not communicating and somebody on their behalf is mis-communicating.it happened with me 2 once miscommunication between people did'nt let me and this girl get hooked up eventhough we both were all for it.
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there was no mis-communication. but she did no good
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so the guy knew u did nt like him?but still send his family over?.what a moron.
