A woman's home after marriage

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Re: A woman’s home after marriage

@Demesne

Ok I guess I shouldve explained the “mmaika” situation. Her stepdad and mom and siblings live in maika. The siblings from stepdad are very disrespectful towards her. In the maika her son gets slapped here and there by these siblings on every little thing. Her mother has told her to get out many times but isnt shoving her out. I consoled her and said that at least her mom is keeping her. She says she doesnt feel like she can cook anything for her son there specially because people might say why are you giving him stuff (she comes from a poor family). Apparently in her maika her mom hits her too.

I’m not understanding the situation…
So she’s married and has a child.. but won’t live with her hubby because he can’t afford to get a place of their own, and she doesn’t get along with her MIL… So she’s living at her parent’s place where her and her child are treated like crap?

I was under the impression that once a girl is married, she’s treated like a princess when she comes to visit, or in this case stay, at her “maika”… .
So she wasn’t kicked out of her MIL’s house, and her own mother is not physically shoving her out of her house, but is telling her to “get out”.

Perhaps she needs to realized she’s married. If her husband can’t afford to live separately from his family, that’s not his fault. She’s allowing him to “visit” his son, cool. But the son and the father are missing out on some serious father/ child bonding time. And that’s not fair to either one of them.

And I totally agree with Hareem. NO one should hit any kid, let alone someone else’s… And the icing on the cake in this story, she’s a married woman and her mother hits her??

It could be because we don’t have the other side of the story here, but I’d much rather live with a controlling MIL than a family that treats me and my child like crap.