**Asa everyone, its very sad to read peoples problems especially when its people who are being stopped to marry who they want, i know its hard because i have been through it myself. Id like to tell my story so people can see that nothing is impossible when Allah is on your side.
im sorry this is abit long ive tried 2 cut the details out but still theres just so much 2 say..
This all started a very long time ago and most of the mistakes are my own but sometimes ur little mistakes can become very big problems for u. There was a guy who i met when i was about 20-21 he was really crazy about me as he had seen me at a wedding in pakistan and after that he constantly kept calling me and trying to talk 2 me.
i was bk in london and he just wouldnt stop the effort of calling me so i made my first mistake…Answering his calls! He seemed ok at first he would just go on about how much he loved me and wanted 2 marry me but i guess i was just laughing it off with my friends as some psycho from pakistan, when i started to make it clear to him that sorry im not interested like that he flipped out in rage he would call me and start crying he started to threat me and my family, i know now that i should have just stopped answering his calls and ignored him but i became so terrified because he came to london and would stalk me if i didnt answer his phone calls he would start calling my house phone in the middle of the night and waking every1 i was so scared i didnt want my mum and dad 2 know, my mum n dad were such great parents so loving and we were a very close family i was so scared to hurt them how would i answer all the qusetions they would ask me if that guy started calling them?they would have been so disappointed in me i really wanted to ask them 4 help but was just scared that was my biggest mistake.. now i think i should have stood up 2 him told someone but its easier said then done not every1 is so strong only the person in the situation knows how it feels
he would call and even cut his wrist and start screaming he would be drunk sometimes if i wouldnt listen 2 him then he kept sending his parents and said that if i said no he would make me so badnaam that i wouldnt be able to show my face 2 any1 again,i had done nothing only Allah knew that and i was stuck so badly..we moved to pakistan then because my dad had always wanted us to live in our own country togeather and all us brother n sisters agreed,we loved it here everything was so perfect mashAllah but i still had this black shadow over me.
sadly in our pakistani culture it only takes a guy to say something about a girl and ppl ruin her life by inventing lies and backbiting etc they just need gossip i was so scared of hurting my dad he loved me so much i was his pride he used to call me meri shehzadi he could never take all this even if some1 would look at me or say something in a wrong way he would go mad.. so i kept quiet and kept suffering alone, i became depressed i lost my personality my life my will to live i would just cry all the time and slowly became depressed no body knew why, my parents had refused to his because they did not like his family from b4 they were very indecent ppl,i was glad but still had 2 face all this, so many rishte would come 4 me but i couldnt accept because he had said he would go 2 the guys family and talk abt me if i accepted any rishta.
Something very painful well the most painful thing happened in my life then, I lost my dad.. he passed away after a sudden heart attack at the age of 48 that was it the final blow i felt i died on that day my dad was my life the reason my life had been so beautiful our family was like a little heaven in this world for us and suddenly all that was taken away,there was jus no point of anything living dying i didnt care thats when that guy i wouldnt call him human he doesnt deserve 2 b called that,thats when he took advantage he knew i no longer had a dad my brothers were younger they couldnt do anything so he openly started to harass us he came 2 pakistan and satrted to threaten my mum my little sister he would follow my car anything and everything u can think of this idiot did.. i couldnt take it anymore after my dad i no longer cared what he did or what any1 said the fear just went away i just wanted to kill him he had always threatned me he would kill my family and now my dad had died i hated him from the beginning so now i stood up i told my mum she was sosupportive but when he saw that i wsa no longer scared of him he went round to my dads side of the family my mums my cousins all or relatives and started to spread horrible things about me all lies which he had always been threatning me of,
i did not care and left everything 2 Allah all i did night and day was pray i knew nothing would hurt more than my dad not being with me so i let him do waht he wanted without caring i got so close 2 Allah and since then he opened up the paths in my life that were black and gloomy for so long, he had made sure no one would want to marry me by spreading such things but no one can harm u if Allah doesnt want…i am living proof of that no matter how bad things seem when Allah wants no 1 can stop u from getting what u want. I had a friend in the family who had a brother who was the same age as me, she knew of all this and used 2 cry 4 me so much i was getting so ill day by day.. her brother is the hero..my hero who Allah gave to me when no one could have imagined, he called me and told me that things were getting very out of hand that guy is always saying bad things and lies about u wenever us guys get togaether etc,he told me not to lose hope and to not let this get me so ill he supported me so much helped me cope with all this losing my dad and dealing with all this 2. He would get suprised saying this guy is acting like a majnuu begging every1 to get him married 2 u somehow but what kind of love is this when u make someones life hell to get them??
U wont belive but this guy saved my life he took stand and said i dont care what this guy is saying i dont wanna know if its true or false im not gonna ever ask u any questions and he asked me if i would marry him… i was so shocked i didnt know what to think i said no at first because i said he will come 2 u an may try 2 harm u and i told him 2 look at what ppl r saying but he wouldnt take no 4 an answer he said give me a chance to try and fill the love and security u have lost by losing ur dad, he said i promise u i will never let any1 say a word about u i know ur innocent and ill fight my whole life if i have 2 to get ur life back the one u deserve…
Allah has blesses me so much given me so much happiness that i could not have ever even imagined of…i didnt think of getting married ever after all this but how did i know i would find the guy of my dreams, i cannot explain in words how much i love him and thats nothing compared to how much he loves me he treats me like im some princess all the time all i can say all the time is alhamdullillah i cant thank my Allah enough for what hes given me,
we had our nikkah just a few months ago and when that guy found out he tried his best to ruin anything he could by ringing my husband his family but see when Allah doesnt want no one can harm u everyone ignored him he was gutted and i became someones wife who is the most amazing loving gorgeous guy i have ever met…mashAllah. Were getting married next month and my life has becaome like a dream he makes me feel just how special my dad had always and he really loves and looks after my family too… hes a gift from Allah that all i can say.. the funny thing is i really like him from years before when i had seen him but who knew he was gonna b my husband.since our nikkah that guy has kept away alhamdullillah i dont even want to curse him for what he did 2 me i just want 2 forget he ever existed.
Im just so glad my dad didnt see me suffering like i did he never knew of anything and im glad because i could never see him hurt even though its been 2 years i cry when i think of my dad but i know we will be togeather in jannat inshAllah.. all i know now is that i have to be a good wife to my husband who gave me so much respect. Plese remeber us in ur duaas and pray we have a good married life.
I just want to say to anyone suffering from similar situations out there that when u have Allah by ur side no one nothing can harm u its so important to get close to him in such times..please never lose hope.**
