a vicious love cycle

Lifestyle Relationships
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hi people, I’m or should I say we, meaning my family is quite shaky these days due to what happening because of us.

The the thing is my aunt (my father’s sister) has two sons. We’re two sisters, I’m the younger one. My elder sister is engaged to Bilal, my aunt’s elder son. But she (my elder sis) loves his younger brother Kashif. I like Bilal alot and wish that somehow this engagement breaks so we two (Bilal and I) can get together but Bilal loves my elder sister alot and is very happy with this engagement. Now my elder sis loves Kashif but the problem is that Kashif likes me.

If you’re confused then let me summarize. I love Bilal but he’s in love (and engaged) to my elder sister. My elder sister like Kashif but he’s in love with me.

A month ago all four of us found out about it and needless to say we’re in a very awkward position.

We tried applying that love-someone-who-loves-you-not-whom-you-love saying but it didn’t work out. When I told Bilal that, “look my sister doesn’t love you but I do so as that rule states, we should be together.” But he sharply replied back and said, “well I don’t love you but my brother Kashif does. Why don’t you be with him and don’t ruin our engagement.”

Now we don’t know what to do. Either way, anyway someone would be loosing something and someone.

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Marrying cousins has more problems that just heartache. Look else where.

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interesting.. i think u all shudnt marry each other at all.

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on a serious note - make istikhara
on a lighter note - make a toss

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*Originally posted by armughal: *
on a lighter note - make a toss
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lolz.. i was gonna say go to nepal u can marry both brothers :D ( just joking!) .. but i didnt cuz i am scared of the hitler mod here :(

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  • 4-some * folks it would be difficult
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[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by armughal: *
on a serious note - make istikhara
on a lighter note - make a toss
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I agree with this one.

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All of you need to find yourself new guys and girls.
You are all being silly and running after people who do not want to spend their lives with you. Get out of it as soon as possible.

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I have to agree with Chaltahai Uncle. Look elsewhere and let this all go. Marrying cousins causes a lot of drama!

It'll make a good Bollywood movie though.

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Strange situation. Marrying cousins isn't my cup of tea. Try to extricate yourself from this unhealthy mess and move on.

:)

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I would say you should all cancel it all, for the sake of the family. No matter what order you marry each other in, it will end in at least two of you feeling unhappy and worse, with inappropriate feelings for your own in-laws.

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Do a four-some and based on the outcome make the appropriate matches.

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^all in the family ;)

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Marring into family sux, it will cause soo much trouble.

Man how can you love your cuz, I can't love a Yemeni, forget that I can't love a Arab :D

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Maj if you can't love a yemini or arab does it mean you can love and marry a paki (if ever)?

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:smiley: that was just me being me, FUNNY

but “IF” I do get married, which wont ever happen, I can marry any MUSLIM, cool huh? sadly I will be the next Rabia :teary2:

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next Rabia?

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*Originally posted by mAd_ScIeNtIsT: *
next Rabia?
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Yes Rabia of Basra

she used to talk to Allah (swt) and say this:

I have loved Thee with two loves, a selfish love and a love that is worthy (of Thee).
As for the love which is selfish, I occupy myself therein with remembrance of Thee to the exclusion of all others,
As for that which is worthy of Thee, therien Thou raisest the veil that I may see Thee.
Yet is there no praise to me in this or that,
But the praise is to Thee, whether in that or this

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Maj I am concerned about you. You think you will be the next Rabia because you hate men and won't get married or is their some other reason to it? Why do you hate men by the way?

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:hehe:

Of course there is another reason duh :smiley:

I hate men, why because all the good ones are dead :teary2:

leave me be, I am lost and confused, leave my soul alone, there isnt much left of it :teary3: