Exactly the same here. My dad’s buried in Pakistan, whether HIS family go to his grave or not I have no idea but since the day he’s been buried I haven’t been to his grave, neither my mum or siblings. It was his wish to be put beside his father and my mum’s parents and he got it, but for me and my mum it’s the most difficult thing ever to know year in and year out that his grave is so far away from us and we can’t even go to put something for him. I’d wish that my mum could have changed his mind but to no avail.