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Nik...it shouldnt make much difference if he has the passports for wife and kids, these are pretty quickly replaceable I would think. Her husband and her home are in US? Then she should be able to get back here pretty quickly, hire a proper divorce attorney and get the husband to pay alimony and child support.
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is she US citizen?
Lost and Stolen U.S. Passports Abroad
she can do a lot …he can not keep her passport. A good attorney can make him stay behind bar for sometime
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where did they get married? was it registered? if so, he cant just "divorce her from here." nor can he marry anyone else. this story doesnt make much sense to me. the woman can be back in a week with a new passport, all she needs to do is report old ones as lost.
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I don't know about the whole logistics of this passport thing...but I know a family whose passports where stolen in Pakistan and they went through so much hassle....even years after they are not all back.........don't know if they were citizens or not.......
Either way....I'm sure a lot can be done, she needs to be strong and have the strength to fight for her children at least, she should probably also go to a doctor for her depression.....for the betterment of her and her children
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I just can't get over the fact that you can have such an evil plan against your kids and wife . Simply horrible .
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Also, how did he get custody of the kids so quickly? Did the grandparents just come and take the kids away telling the wife they have custody now? I think he's just telling her stories to scare her and is probably doing all the paperwork in USA, she has to act quickly and contact the US Embassy/Consulate.
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He's the one who sounds unfit, stupid jerk.
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Hey..you know, it could well be that the gal is suffering from postpartum depression or even postpartum psychosis. Both are treatable. But in the worst of it, she may well have exhibited signs of parental inability. Yup the guys a jerk to do this. But I dont see how she would be stranded inPak when her husband and children are here...it should be a simple matter of replacing the passport and then going after hubby.
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^ u reside in the US right?
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She doesn't have a US passport. One of her kids does. So we've asked her to take all her info to the US Consulate. The fact that he even took one kids passport away is bad enough. He took her travel docs. And then did all this.
But she needs to act asap.
Now the community has stepped in but almost everyone is on his side .
wow, some community.
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Sorry but if she does not have US passport, intensity of action from US consulate will not be that high. Dont expect much other than trying to get custody of kids
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^Yep, unfortunately, thats true. Even if she's a green card holder, she won't get much help.
Where are the kids right now?
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I've heard of stories how the husband keeps the passport and gives a divorce. I don't know what the women do in this situation. All I can advise is to talk to the US Embassy about this because he doesn't have the right to possess her passport. I believe I have heard of people involving the police when this happens. The other thing I would suggest is that if a custody battle happens, she needs to prove his accusations wrong. If she's going through depression, she needs to go to a psychiatrist and seek treatment. See if it is diagnosed as depression, or if she is manic depressive, has bipolar, etc. Then take medication to control it. Did she have a baby recently? It could be post-partum depression? And is she fairly independent that she could have gone to a doctor on her own? Or would she have needed needed her husband to take her to one? Because that can also be an argument she can use, that she needed her husband to take her to a doctor whether for transportation, payment, or to help explain her symptoms... but the husband refused to help.
so sad to know... he took full advantage of her ... thats why it is very important to register your marriage here and have legal rights... have the backup copies of all the important documents and stuff ..because you never know whats gonna happen to your marriage tomorrow..and ladies, stay away from anti depression as much as you can... this is the one of the very important tool (alongwith the doctor reports) they use against you in the court to get the custody of the childern....
i would say no matter how happy and content you are in your marriage... there is no harm to see the abuse counselor just for once to know what things you Must Must must have in your marriage..but it is too sad to see our ladies love to live in denial
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I dont think they live in denial...I would think a few kids later I could trust my husband...but I guess not.
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Jeez. Ridiculous.
She probably doesn't have much know-how of the system here either to advocate for herself.
And then in other threads people ask why girls should even get educated if they're not gonna have jobs...
Um.
So that you know your rights and morons like this shmuck can't screw you over.
This is nothing. We had a case of a battered girl in our community - victim of domestic violence. Everyone found out and blamed the girl for it.
Jeez. Ridiculous.
She probably doesn't have much know-how of the system here either to advocate for herself.
And then in other threads people ask why girls should even get educated if they're not gonna have jobs...
Um.
So that you know your rights and morons like this shmuck can't screw you over.
I am just so sad and upset to read this story.
Some men are real jerks. Worse than animals.
I so much agree with what PCG said ! That's why girls these days needs education !
this is scary..how can u make sure ur not marrying a jerk?