A friend’s young son (catholics from Pakistan) but living here in the US recently got married to a younger girl, but before the church ceremony, they had counseling by the priest.
The priest asked the groom-to-be the following question:
“If you, your wife and mother are struck by poverty and have just a small piece of bread, who would you give it to, your mother or your wife?”
The mom of this person told me this and then later she told me what her son said.
its just a bread and not an abe-hayat…so it doesn’t matter who will get to eat that piece of loaf cuz eventually all three of em will die in hunger. :halo:
feed it to birdies, atleast they will have a longer living span than us.
ps. lol, if girl asks him to give it to his mother, she will be rewarded with medal of honor. and her name will be remembered forever. and then she will get a holiday on her name and also may be a road will be named after her.
I'm sure he'd say he'd give it to his mother because when you get married it's for rich or for poorer. The wife wouldn't eat the bread knowing her husband's hungry:)
Tough one. I would give it to my mother and then ask my wife to work with me to eradicate the poverty situation. My mother is a feeble old lady, she is most likely to be not able to work. She raised me and all that so she should get the piece of bread. In the mean time, me and my wife we will work and raise money for food.
^ What if the wife is sick? Not mentioned in the question who is actually weak.
Besides for richer or poor would mean husband or wife's responsibility, since the question is asked to the man so he should give up his right on the bread.
In other words, if the question was asked to the wife, then she should give up.
Tough one. I would give it to my mother and then ask my wife to work with me to eradicate the poverty situation. My mother is a feeble old lady, she is most likely to be not able to work. She raised me and all that so she should get the piece of bread. In the mean time, me and my wife we will work and raise money for food.
I would expect the right answer to be the Mother, for richer for poorer are the marriange vows are they not? but then again not sure if Christians hold the mother in the high esteems that muslims do, (no offence here, just refering to the 3x mother 1x father concept of Islam)
well, based on age, it is more likely the mom is the weaker one. Anyway, if the wife is sickly, mom should refuse anyway. Too bad the world ain't perfect.
The christians/catholic view is not that there is less esteem for parents. But upon marriage, "a man leaves his mother and cleaves to his wife", the sanctity of marriage and the relationship with the spouse is of utmost importance.
Its actually easy.
Its like u r in a boat, an accident occurred... and it turned over or something. Now u have urself, ur family and ur mom, who are u gonna save?
Some went for their wives, others for their kids, some didn't tried 'cos according to them their own lives are important...and....Muslims for their moms.
Explanation, simple... wives and kids are replaceable... Mothers... NOT.
^OMG!!! I'd not be married to a man who saw me as "replaceable"!!! And our children, I dont even want to start on that...you have to have one of your own before you ever call them replaceable!
^OMG!!! I'd not be married to a man who saw me as "replaceable"!!! And our children, I dont even want to start on that...you have to have one of your own before you ever call them replaceable!
I knew i would be bombarded with those OMG's... but it was expected.
I am sorry, i can't really argue as we both have that lil ideological difference u know... whereas you might be thinking its horrible, our faith puts our parents right UP there. So!!! And we can't even compare.
he shud eat it himself .