Re: A rishta dilemma.
Okay so I sat down and talked to my dad for a long time over breakfast about this.
In the last couple of months I have had about 5 rishtas approach my parents which im actually quite surprised about as I had nothing for years anyways, what my mum and dad do which is rather unconventional is that they first go and see the boy and their family without me at the boys house and then assess whether the boy and family are suitable for me and then invite them over here.
My dad is picky and extremely vigilant and i trust him alot. Out of that 5 he rejected 3 straight away so I asked his reasons as he also rejected 1 doctor, he said for that doctor he felt that their mentality wouldn’t match mine and our families and I fully trust my dad he has been right about all the people in my life (friends and family etc) and my dad is really strict about education so I asked what is it with this boy that is so good that it overrides the fact that he didnt finish his degree I discovered he dropped out in the middle of the second to last semester.
My dad explained the following. 1) the family- mum, dad, older brother, younger brother and bahu are all into education and have been encouraging this boy to complete his degree, they themselves are all very well educated and hold value for education and as the it is a family of finance and investment professionals they have ensured that he atleast gets all his professional exams as many as he can get as soon as possible. The family apparently seem to have good solid values.
he spoke to the boy for a long time( he was at their house from 1-5) and apparently he spend about 2 solid hours talking mainly to the boy ( my dad dad is a really good lie detector too maybe because his patients lie to him about sticking to their medication sometimes etc) and these positive points about the boy came up a) very honest and open b) bright and intelligent-he could talk on a wide range of topics with confidence and knowledge i.e. hes not some dumbass c) ambitious- he wants to get futher in his career and if that means taking a few months to finish his degree he will, he just doesnt want to right now as he is a professional working in a good job at a very good bank d) he was generally respectful, polite and courteous.
My dad said IF things work out after a few more meetings and I talk to him alone a few times then our family may say that we would much prefer if everything goes ahead if the boy definately does have intention to finish his degree to ensure career progression.
My dad said overall everything about the boy is good minus the non completion of his degree but his job at the moment seems to be paying very well a good solid position, he claims he is being head hunted and the family are in banking so could also through inside knowledge ensure he doesnt completely flop in life BUT my dad said I have to meet him and decide how I personally feel about the whole thing after I have met him and get more info on his professional exams and his ambition and his values about education which is actually important for the future.
See this is what i was talking about. Only the people who interacted with him can judge whether his lack of degree is something you should ignore or let go of. From what you shared of your dad’s views on the guy, he seems like a good catch
so wish u the best. Hope it works out for you :).