Are temporary marriages for real? One of my Sunni friends just told me that it’s ok for a married Shia Muslim guy to sleep with a girl by ‘temporarily’ marrying her. All he needs to do is offer her something (i.e. the jumper he’s wearing) and ask her to become his wife for the night. Isn’t this just another form of prostitution? She also told me that if this girl accepts to marry this guy for the night, 1/3 of her body will go to heaven, if she temporarily marries 2 guys, 2/3 of her body will go to heaven and so on. How is it possible for body be divided into three?
Also, is it OK for a Shia Muslim guy to marry a Sunni Muslim girl and vice vesa?
Sidenote: It may sound as though I’m taking the mick, but I’m not. I know there’s a lot of hate mongering between the different sects of Islam, and so I want to know if there’s any truth behind this temporary marriage business, or is it just another attempt to give other sects a bad name?
Sadi just dont listen to anyone..do some research urself…if you go to http://www.al-islam.org/encyclopedia/ it talks about it in great details ..read chapter 6.a
its not as easy as reading an ayat or something and jumping in the bed with her…it was allowed in Prophets pbuh time but later Umar stopped this practice..alot of non muslims ask me hey man can you have 4 wives..ppl cant just have 4 wives…there are alot of restrictions…just like that ppl cant just do mutah..if you go to the link it will describe the situation much better then i can
Sheraz, why can’t these religious websites write in normal English? They always use these long winded sentences when it can all be explained in 2 lines I have skimmed thru the website, but it doesn’t really clear it up for me …. it still seems so wrong! Are these temporary marriages commonplace amongst Shias/Shi’ites?
Eddy, age is but a number. I have limited knowledge of Islam (not something I’m proud of …) and my knowledge of other sects is even more inadequate, so please forgive me if i sound patronising and tell me what u were about to say.
My dear sadi religious matters are not alwys understood by people who have really no knowledge of Islam...just like they dont teach calculus in pre school...first learn about basic Islam and then look into these complicated matters...i gave u a website to do some research and you come back after 20 minutes saying you skimmed through it and its hard and wrong
Temporary marriage called Mutah is allowed according to the Jafri fiqh. But it is not prostitution because it is a legal marriage contract for the stated time, muddah, between two contracting persons and also because the woman has to complete her waiting period that is the Iddah as in a normal marriage. Mutah can be contracted for non sexual reasons too. It is not practised widely within the shia community espescially the pakistani shia community because of cultural taboo. In some other Shia countries like iran it is like a part of culture but I am not sure how true this is.
The reasoning is simple. The Prophet pbuh never disallowed mutah during his lifetime. Hazrat Umar did not have authority to overrule what the Prophet allowed the Prophets word is always final. Even if you believe Hazrat Umar did have the rght to overrule the Prophet, and forcibly dissallowed mutah, Hazrat Ali during his time as caliph then allowed its practise. Nobody has disallowed it is since.
Can u give any narration where Hazrat Ali (RA) allowed it. and examples in that era ? . Hazrat Umer (RA) also changed the way slaves were handled and freed them and slavery became obscure after that.. as well as kanezen.. Hazrat Umer (RA) also made regular army and many other things that Prophet (PBUH) never did but that time period required it..
i am sorrie i didnt mean to be rude. m knowledge is limited too. but i think u are allowed marriage if like the man is in war or soemthing like tat. so maybe i am as confused as u.
i know few Sunni and Shia mixed families and i don't think there is any prohibition in Islam.
as far as Mutah is concerened, I tried to search the site but couldn't find anything on that matter. Please let me know if did u find anything or else i will wait till Sheraz comes back.
well first i would like to say i am not a scholer in any means....but i will try to answer your question
Prophet pbuh never disallowed mutah in His lifetime..atleast the shia believe that...if ppl were doing mutah in His time so who are we to say this is prostitution?
Islam basically tells you how to live your life..muslims are to live their lives as God wants them to...mutah does not have to be for sexual reasons...couple of my religious friends did mutah and later married the same girls...with mutah they could talk and understand each other before making the big step in their lives...like i said it doesnt have to be for sexual reasons
and can you tell me how you can call it prostitution? have you heard of anything called 'haq mahar' ..if two ppl get married they set a haq mahar, if they are to get a divorce the girl would get her haq mahar which was set on their nikkah...mutah is very much like nikkah the only thing is there is a time limit..thats why its a temp marriage..and no one said you have to do it..
like rhia was saying earlier mostly shias dont do mutah now..just like we dont go for 4 wives..but you see 4 marriages are still allowed but there are so many restrictions with it..if your first wife does not want u to have another marriage YOu basically can't
lastly i was wondering if two ppl with opposite sex talk to each other..i mean is it allowed in our religion and this is one of the shia scholer had to say about it
"Islamic etiquette demands that any communication, especially between males and females, comply with the highest standards of Hayaa' (Modesty). Decency and purity of intention are of paramount importance. You should seriously consider the purpose and intent behind every form of communication"
usually cuz a guy and girl, when finding the rite partner, have to discuss stuff thats more than just general things...
like details about family and stuff, and discussions about various other topics that otherwise they cant do, is permitted through muta'ah
I have skimmed thru the website, but it doesn’t really clear it up for me …. it still seems so wrong! Are these temporary marriages commonplace amongst Shias/Shi’ites?